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writes: My friend's girlfriend has taken a liking to me, which she has told me herself! I also really fancy her, however I don't know what is the right thing to do! Please help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, totallyjoey  +, writes (6 August 2008):
to be honest...I wouldn't want this girl to be my girlfriend if I was a boy. #1 she's cheating on her boyfriend...well kind of because she at the point of her relationship where she is just using him and not tell him the truth that she doesn't like him anymore. #2 She is a player. If she can fall for a guy (you) that she meets with everyday she can really screw you over when shes meets up with your guy friends too. If you really like her that much maybe you should consider her past relationship with men. Also if your a risk taker ...all I can say is good luck ^^
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totallyjoey
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): And I am this bad girl. I have a wonderful boyfriend but our relationship has been complicated ever since.. and lately I've started to feel something to his best friend. But I'm afraid he doesn't like me as much as I like him. So I won't do anything. ;(
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2005): i'm currently experienceing this very same problem.. this is really a tough spot to be in... i mean it would really be nice to act on your feelings for your friend's girlfriend. The best scenario would be that you have one great night together....
Full of love and all....
but prepare yourself for an emotional hell the coming weeks months to come.. for you would then have to deal with letting her go to be with your friend. it would be your secret together.
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reader, closetfreak +, writes (28 August 2005):
go to your friend and tell him whats going on and if you guys have a solid friendship he will dump her like a bad habit
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (28 August 2005):
The right thing would be to tell her off yourself. Say that you're not about to backstab your friend like that and she needs to get her **** together. Do this and watch the situation play itself out. Leave it as is without bringing her boyfriend into it. Or, if you like her that much say she has to break up with him before she gets with you. If she does, then you know she really does like you. Be prepared for a weaker bond with your friend at the very least, and a beatdown in the parking lot delivered by your ex-friend at the worst. The tough part is figuring out who is more important: your friend or this girl. Either way, handle it like a man, and don't pull anything slimy. If you start seeing her while she's with your friend, not only is that being a coward but it makes things worse for everyone later.
"All that you need is in your soul" Lynyrd Skynyrd
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (28 August 2005):
 The "right" thing to do in this situation is do nothing. Do nothing, that is, except give a lot of thought to the effects of your actions.
Think about the repercussions if you follow through on this attraction. You might get the girl, but you'll likely lose a mate. If you also then lose the girl - which seems likely, since she hasn't shown any particular loyalty to her boyfriends so far, and could just as easily throw herself at one of *your* friends - then you've lost everything and gained nothing.
You need to do nothing whatsoever about this mutual attraction. Just because someone fancies you, doesn't mean you have to act on it, you know. Remember, your mate trusts you. Do you want to breach that trust by sneaking around with his girlfriend?
If you really feel that you have to do something, I'd be going to your mate and telling him that you feel like his girlfriend is paying a lot of attention to you, and ask him if he's noticed. You wouldn't mention that there's a mutual attraction. At least then, you can get a feel for whether their relationship is strong and where it might be headed. Tell him that you've felt pulled in two directions about it, but reassure him that as a friend, you wouldn't betray his trust.
You should also speak to your friend's girlfriend and tell her that, while you're flattered by the attention, you have to respect that she's already involved with your friend, so nothing can come of it.
That's the "right thing to do".
If you follow through on the attraction without speaking to both your friend and his girlfriend, you could very well end up as persona non grata with both of them.
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