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writes:Am i worrying 2 much? Me and my bf been together almost 2 yrs got a gorgeous daughter but the prob is he has a drink problem! He has gotten loads better, but i cant help but feel that horrible knot in my stomach that he might go back again. His family says he has done gr8 which i agree, and they tell me leave him be dont moan if he has a drink which he has 2day coz its our daughters bday. He says his in control, but im still worried, wot do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, we-are-nowhere  +, writes (27 June 2009):
 if by a drinking problem you mean an alcoholic but he still drinks a bit now and says he is in control , he is not .. and it will get worse and u should worry sure , if it gets like it used to and he starts drinking alot , leave the house or kick him out till he gets help i know this is extreme but u have a little kid to protect and care for , u dont want her growing up having an a drunk father .. best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): You have every reason to be worried. Usually when alcoholics, or recovering alcoholics say they will have 'just a few' they end up getting plastered and pretend that 'they're ok'. I don't he should be drinking on your daughters birthday as she is very young, but it's too late now so maybe you two need to consider it in the future.
If he's had just one or two, then don't say anything for the moment. If he's had more and is starting to get drunk, then you should talk to him about it when he's sober. If you talk to him about it when/if he's drunk he might get aggressive (depending on how he usually acts when he's drunk, but most alcoholics ARE aggresive).
It's a good idea to praise him and encourage him when he's been doing well, but he does need to know that having just the 'odd one or two' can lead to much more than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): does he drink every day ? a few drinks a week sounds ok , perhaps he could go to AA
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