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writes:Do guys who normally prefer the "bimbo" look on girls (meaning bleached or dyed long hair, tanned skin, skinny, revealing clothing,) also like "average" girls or not so much? Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds +, writes (17 June 2011):
 Depends on what the guy is looking for. A one-night-stand? A fling? LTR?
Think of it this way - if a guy just wants to get laid, no strings attached, is he going to talk to the girl in the stripper pumps with the plunging neckline, or to the shy sober girl in a sweater? Conversely, if he's looking for a girl unlikely to cheat on him, who is he going to talk to?
The bimbo look is basically advertising that she's easy. Yes, I know some girls just dress that way for the attention, or to fit in with their friends - the intent doesn't change what message the guys will receive. So the bimbo look gets a lot of attention from guys looking for low-investment, quick sex.
A more feminine, modest girl will get a guy's attention when he's looking for a relationship. She's less likely to have a sordid past, and more likely to remain loyal. Yes, I know that sometimes the shy-seeming girl is secretly a freaky party girl, but again, that doesn't change the message guys will get from her appearance.
The tone of your question suggests you are a more average girl, and are having difficulty attracting a boyfriend because they're going for bimbos. That's easy enough to fix. First, look for guys in situations where the guys are less likely to be looking for flings (parties are bad, afterschool clubs are better - except for drama club). Second, dress to emphasize either legs, butt, or boobs - but only one at a time. It attracts attention without giving off the "easy" vibe. Third, get to know the guys around you, but don't go crazy for any of them until you've got an idea of whether or not they're looking for girlfriends rather than flings. Potential boyfriends will want to know that you're confident enough to search, but selective enough not to latch onto any random dude who will pay attention to you.
Don't mix your messages. You can cut loose with a boyfriend once you've been with him for a while, without damaging your good-girl image in his eyes or anyone else's - in fact, this will work in your favor. But it's better for you to be patient and not do that while you're still single.
At your age, things can be a little tough. You'll have to be patient, and even a few months can seem like forever when you're 16. It's worth the time to find the right person, though.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 June 2011):
 Every man has a different taste in women, so there is no one 'type' that a guy would like.
Some guys do like the bimbo look, but then again some guys like petite dark haired women - everyone is different and has their own personal taste.
On average, the majority of men would actually prefer a girl who was classy rather than a trashy bimbo, it is not good to be seen out and about with a trashy bleached blonde with her boobs out, imagine taking her back to meet your parents!
Take me for example - I am 5ft 3, weigh currently 151lbs (but want to lose around 20lbs for health and fitness reasons, not really for aesthetic reasons), I have long dark hair and an hourglass body shape (big boobs, small waist, big bum and big hips). I am nearly the complete opposite of a 'bimbo' yet I have never struggled to find a boyfriend since the age of 15 (I'm now 24). Plenty of men are attracted to me, and this is because I dress well (I studied fashion so I love clothes and dressing nicely in stylish clothes), I look after myself well (nice hair, make-up, nails etc) and I have a very feminine body shape rather than being a skinny bimbo. Some men like skinny, but lots of men like curves too.
There is no such thing as average because everyone is different, there will be good bits and bad bits about your body and you just need to learn to make the most of the good and disguise the bad. You are unique, there is no-one else on earth who looks like you (unless you are a twin of course!) so you can never be average, you are special simply for being different. And that is a good thing!
Dont worry too much about what the media might portray as the perfect body or perfect look, what is important is that you learn to love what you have and make the most of what you have got. Men love women in all different shapes and sizes, there will be more than enough men who think you look great.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (17 June 2011):
 Depends on the guy..
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reader, eek +, writes (17 June 2011):
 i like the natural classy look. Wear cloths that look sexy but dont show everything off. Save the rest for a special person in your life to see.
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