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writes: Recently my girlfriend broke up with me because I drunkenly kissed another girl. She hass not forgiven me, but I desperately want her back. I do love her and hate myself for my mistake.I'm planing to write her a letter. Does anyone with any experience with this sort of situation, have any words of wisdom or advice to help me write this letter? What does she need to know to repair her heart? I feel so strongly for her.Thanks for any help x x
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 Oh... and if you want to enclose a small token of your affection within the letter (let's say a little pendant or something - I don't mean you should break the bank, but something small and nice) that might help her remember a few more of your good qualities, too.
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reader, Bev Conolly +, writes (1 August 2006):
Keep it brief.
Don't go gushing on and on for pages about what a complete ass you were, and how much you'd crawl over broken glass to get one final glance at her beautiful face before you expire... etc etc.
Try to make it one page, or no more than two. Tell her you understand that what you did upset her. Let her know that *you* know you were wrong, and you're sorry. If you can, give her an idea about how you're going to avoid doing it in future (like not drinking so much...? Hmmm?).
Close the letter by saying that you still love and miss her and all the wonderful times you had together. Tell her that you want her to contact you, if she will.
Send the letter and keep your fingers crossed. I've said this before, many times, but in case I haven't said it to you: you can't make someone give you a second chance. The next step is for her to decide.
Give her time to think, time to miss you, time to forgive you. That might be a while if she's really angry (or has control issues), so try to be patient.
In the meanwhile, carry on with your life. See your friends, visit your family, take your nephew to the park, walk the dog, collect rubbish from the roadside, see a few movies, do laps in the community pool, write a letter to your elderly uncle, pull some weeds... just stay busy.
You can only do so much, and after that, you just become a pest. If she'd break up for good over a drunken kiss that you apologised sincerely for, then her feelings weren't as strong as yours anyway.
But you keep your fingers crossed.
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