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writes:ok. so, i really like my friends brother. he is 15 and 2 classes above me at school. im 14. the problem is that my other friend also lkes him. and she is a lot more confident and can just go up to him to talk to him. i know i should try to do that too but im scared he will think im just a little pathetic 14 yr old girl. what can i do to make him notice me??
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reader, ticki +, writes (3 November 2010):
ticki is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys!! ur answers are really helpful and i hope i do the right thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): hii...
i think you pretty much answered your own question...hahaa. just be confident!!! strike up a conversation with him just like you would with anybody else. if it's getting cold outside, you might say something like, "yayy, it's finally getting cold!" i'm not sure about where you live, but where i'm from, that would be a really great conversation starter, because everybody's really excited about cold weather. if you pass him the hallway at school, start saying hello to him every now and again. compliment him--"i like your shirt," and things like that (based on my experience, guys like compliments like that...hahaa). just be careful not to come on too strong. don't automatically be like, "hi, i like you, we need to hang out sometime!" basically, the only thing that will do is send him running for cover. give him time to get to know you, and give yourself time to get to know him. even if it never turns into an actual relationship, you might still end up with a really great new friend...which can be just as awesome.
another thing that i strongly advise you to do is to talk to the two friends that are involved in this situation. talk to this guy's sister and make sure that she's okay with you liking her brother (some people tend to get really weirded-out about things like that). and be careful not to pay more attention to him than to her...like, don't go over to her house just to be close to him and completely ignore her. also, talk to the friend that likes him and figure out how the two of you are going to handle the situation. i remember being 14, and there were several fights that i got in that could have been easily avoided. like that old saying goes, it's "sisters before misters."
really, the most important thing is just be yourself...because that's the only way that he's ever going to know for sure whether or not he wants to be with you. and always remember to keep your trust in God...because He is going to do whatever it is that's best for both you and this guy.
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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reader, sophiejayne +, writes (3 November 2010):
Your friend that is very upfront and can talk to him is not doing the right thing. The boy will probably be thinking to himself that she talks far to much and basically does his head in. I think you should work up the courage to talk to him but just make it an odd hello, or start a conversation on something you know he likes and he will start to realise how much you have in common. He will not look at you as being babyish and too young because i bet he's just as shy as what you are. Usually i find that you have a crush on him and think he doesnt have one on you, but really i bet you he has. You just need to try and find out if he has by talking with him. One thing i have to tell you to look out for is this friend that also likes him. Girls can start to get bitchy when they have a man to fight over. Watch what your friend does because she might just have something up her sleeve to embarras you infront of this boy or she might be making sure you and him never get together. Jelousy causes alot of distruction so be careful, but good luck.
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