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writes:This is all TRUE on my life. A few months ago I met a man in a hotel whilst in Spain we were friends but thats all! He told me where he lived and by pure coincidence I own a flat very nearby him-which I rent out and live 100 miles away. However for the last 15 years I have been going over about 4 times a year for holidays etc and just come back from a ten day holiday where I stayed in my flat-having had the outside painted and had to see the free holder re payments. The guy from holiday as I said lives on the island which is big (about 30 miles long) but I was on a country bus 14 miles from where I stay and 12 miles in the other direction to where he lives it was right in the countryside letting the cars go by and the bus had to stop and there were some walkers out on the corner waiting for the bus to go by and yes this huy was amongst them as he saw me stepped out of the group and stared into the bus. I didnt wave as I wassnt 100 percent sure until I looked back. two days later my friend in my flat and I went shopping 17 miles in yet another direction to do some shopping in the capital town-sat outside as it was sunny eating some fruit until the buses came which was about 300 yardds around the different part of the town-and yes this guy walked past I spoke as he went past not too sure then he turned round saw us and came over and spoke!!!NOBODI ts stalkinhg he drives a car I and my friend go by bus or walk and we were in opposite directions not going in the same direction. Very odd.My worry now is I have ALWAYS gone over there 3/4 times a year for the last 15 years I told him on holiday I owned a flat there so he kjnows thats true I have even told him which street it is in if he doesnt believe me-my worry now is when I go over again if I bump into him again he might get suspicious DONT forget I didnt know him when I went over before)I do not want to do anything wrong or look as if I am but whey should I stop going over I know lots of people and palces sthere what can I do???? I havent got any plans to go over for the forsseable future but I dont want to keep being scared to go-how can I handle this please?Co-incidences can happen as a fri3ened of mine stayed in a hotel last year somewhere and met a couple who had stayed in the same hotelmas well and they all met by coincidence in another country and resort at a different time of the year -so it can happen But I dont want this guy to think what am I up to etcDo I still go and just do as I always have Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers appreciated. it is definitely coincidences especially as he was in a car and I was coming the opposite direction its not as if I was BEHIND him!!!!!
Also a friend of mine has jsut said I would hardly take another man friend with me over there IF I was going to stalk the other one-TRUE!!! Anyway I am not 100 percent sure it was him the third time. This guy actually went on a cruise last year and met a couple who were on another cruise the year before but a different ship and a different time of year SO HE knows coincidences can happen!!!!!
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reader, auddi  +, writes (29 August 2008):
Of course you should go as usual. Its ok. He will know - with time..:)
If you happen to talk to him sometime, you could actually mention that this is too much of a coincidence that you guys bump into each other so often!
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (29 August 2008):
 I had something similar happen to me once. I live in an area that has a collection of cities so the dentist I had been going to lived in the next city. I just happened to ask him one time while I was in there, where he lived? He looked at me weird and told me he lived in "a..." and I said, oh you'll like it here, that's where I live. He acted irritated with me while I got my teeth cleaned. I asked the receptionist if he was okay and she said he was going through a divorce and he happened to walk by right when that was said. I was really embarrassed but I wasn't attracted to him by ANY means, just concerned. Well, that very weekend I run right into him at the bookstore, then a week later, the grocery store, and then some random convenience store and THEN a restaurant over the next month or so. The first time at the bookstore he said "hi" and then the next couple of times he lookes irritated. He finally came up to me "If we keep running into each other like this I may have to think you are following me" and then we got in a small little argument about each time and who was there first, etc.. See, these were the places I went to ANYWAY and he's the one that was new to the territory so I just kept going where I would normally go and I wasn't going to let this weird dentist dictate my schedule. Anyway, I stopped running into him and when I went to schedule my next appointment he had moved to another state so I was kind of relieved. In your case, you are just living your life like you normally do so remember that and you are also with friends so that would be a whole lot of orchestrating to make this anything more than a coincidence!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Be yourself and go wherever you wish - stop worrying as nothing you have done amounts to stalking! Yes you have seen him a few times but even if he thinks you are tracking him, don't worry as long as YOU know you are not.
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