A
female
age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:Hi! Me and my BF have been together nearly 2 years, and we have made some pretty big changes during that time. Firstly, he went off to Uni at the coast while I was in London, and during that time we split for a few weeks to get some space. We got back together on a compromise, and saw each other every weekend. Now its' my turn to go to Uni, and I am now located in W. Wales, a long way from him. I don't have a problem with LDRs, but ours is starting to show cracks. My compromise to keep us going is to talk every day on the phone, which i don't think is unfair, as its an hour at the VERY most out of his day. But yesterday he got irritated and told me i was a crazy bitch, that its something that i have got into my head that we need to talk every day. Every time i talk to him about 'us' he shies away from it, telling me that i put doubt into the relationship. I don't think that i am, that i am just being realistic. I want to discuss us, as at the moment i don't feel its' working. How should I approach the subject?Thanks!
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (1 November 2009):
 Doesn't sound like your boyfriend is still into doing the tremendous amount of work it takes to make an LDR succeed. He's even verbally abusing you in response to you wanting consistent contact. This relationship is going backwards, regressing. At your age, it's healthy for both of you to be dating different people and exploring the world- not stuck at home with your phone glued to your ear or parked in front of a computer in order to maintain a connection with someone.
Yeah, poster, it isn't working so I'd move on. If in the far future, there is the slim chance that the two of you settle in the same place and are still single and compatible, maybe you can revisit this but until then, stop pounding a square nob into a round hole. Take care.
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