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writes:I have a problem which is starting to cause a good bit of depression in me. You see I had a friend who I talked to a lot, I considered her one of my best friends. We seemed to have fun with each other and talked a lot (An awful lot). However she's been ignoring me for a few months now. When I text her she wont text back like she used to, when I email her she wont reply and when I call she'll hang up. It's annoying because I dont know why this is happening. The last time we spoke I was angry at her, this is because she was calling me weird behind my back because I got her an xmas present (I got ALL of my friends xmas presents), so I did text her about this telling her that it was crap of her and that's the last I heard of her. I dont get this because it doesnt make sense to me; she told me the week before hand she likes having me as a friend and this incident seems so minor that it seems out of character for her to be annoyed by this. Ive tried to talk to her again, Ive even apologised for what I said more than once. Recently just out of annoyance I sent her an email saying I give up and that I dont deserve what she is doing to me. But I still cant stop thinking about her due to all the good times we had. Is there anything I can do? I mean anything at all? I have tried phoning and email and she wont let me speak to her. I know I sound pathetic but it annoys me losing someone who I cared about and I just want to know if there is anything I can do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@scene
I have done that. Yes there was a point where I did have a crush on her but we did talk these things through, this is when she told me she likes having me as a friend. I dont think this is the reason because it was a while before she stopped talking that this stuff happened. And also in this case from her end surely it would make more sense for her to talk to me about it?
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reader, SceneXaddicted  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 In all honesty, it seems as if she is afraid of your friendship becoming more than just friends. If you are writing her out of anger or hostility, it may just freak her out and push her away more.
The best thing to do is write a "parting email".
In this, just tell her how great you were as friends. Make sure you stress the point of only being friends and you not wanting to take it any farther.
You don't necessarily have to make it so that you are saying you don't want to be friends, but just let her know that this is the last email, and that if she does not want you to be in her life, that you will respect that as a friend, because friends will do anything for another friends happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): she doesn't like you anymore. she obviously wants to be left alone. or, she likes the attention you're giving her. she might could be giving you a hard time also
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