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writes:My parents constantly nag me about dating. They like my boyfriend they just don't like that I'm "wasting my younger years being in a relationship because there is plenty of time in the future for that." I'm 20 and I've been dating my boyfriend since my senior year of high school, and I'm positive at this point in my life, I can make my own decisions. I just don't know how to get it across to my parents that I don't appreciate their constant negativity towards my relationship. How can I make this more clear to them? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): Your parents have your best interests at heart, but you're absolutely right in trusting your own judgement above theirs. As long as he's not holding you back from your full potential, just keep doing what you're doing.
It's possible that there's nothing you can do about your parents attitude. If you explain to them that you are positive about life and their negativity is effecting you then maybe that will get through to them. Perhaps write them a letter if it's more likely to get through to them.
You're at an age where your parents are in a transitional period of having to step back from their responsibilities as you become an adult. Maybe just remind them that they need to back off a bit, and you need to experience things that come about from your own choices and not theirs.
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reader, rivi +, writes (5 February 2011):
Personally I think they might have a point and that having an open relationship with yr bf / trying out other bfs for a couple of years would be a safer foundation for marriage or whatever in the future.
You're entitled to feel differently of course but if you are confident you are doing the right thing vis a` vis this boy why are you that bothered as to what yr parents think ?
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