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writes:Hello all,How do you know when you are getting over someone? what are the signs? I feel I am geting over my abusive and controlling ex applying he no contact rule but somehow don;t want to , even though he was bad for me. We had great sex, and I still still miss him (but not the pain or the bad bits!! Why is this?Thanks. ;o) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank yu Eddie 85 for your very kind answer. That gives me alot of hope!! :o) xx Cerbus, you are right - I loved him , miss the good parts, and have sexual urges.. that's it!! plain and simple. Thank you both for taking the time to answer me. xxx
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 I think you don't really get over someone, especially if you had a strong connection with them.
However, time does help and when / if you find someone new, I think you'll have better memories that will replace the old ones.
What is important is to realize you did have some good times, but an abusive relationship is one that is doomed. As humans, we have a tendency to remember only the good times, not the bad times. So keep everything in prospective. Eventually you are going to meet a man that will sweep you off your feet and provide excellent sexual chemistry -- without the battery that you experienced from your previous relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): Because you loved the guy, that simple. You miss the good parts of him and you also have sexual urges.
Basically your head knows he's not good for you but your heart doesn't care it just wants satisfaction. It remembers how good the good times were and it wants them again, it will try and convince you that the pain and hurt is worth it. But it's not.
You know when you're getting over someone when that desire fades. When that need for any form of contact with him just to fulfill your hearts desires goes. You know when the logic of your brain overcomes your heart and it no longer sees him as the source of things that are good.
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