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41-50,
*obeni
writes:Dear Cupid1. I fell in love with a guy 11 years younger than me, I'm 33 - he is also in love with me. 2. I'm divorced3. 2 kids 11 and 34. We met online 4 months ago 5. We have not met face to face6. Same religion - but culturaly different7. His family is well aware of his love for me and have accepted it, but have concerns as we have not met, things change we people physically meet.8. He stays in another state9. we speak for more than a hour every dayWhats my chances - what's your advise - Am I crazy
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Hi Mobeni - I think you just need to be realistic and not have false expectations. One area where you might just be getting carried away a little is in saying you both love each other when you haven't yet met. I'm sure your feelings for each other are very strong and if everything goes well will be even stronger when you have spent time in each other's company. One advantage of a relationship that starts online is that basic information is exchanged before you meet. So make sure this has been done - and presumably you have excahnged a series of photos as well. Good luck.
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reader, onkybonx  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 i don't think your crazy, but 22 is extremely young to be in love, let alone without meeting someone, also the reality of your life as a parent may not be something he is ready for, and then theres how your children would feel...while you both may have a deep affection for each other at the moment, i don't think you should be rushing into declaring love...a fantasy relationship online could crumble quickly in reality. i suggest meeting up but not too put pressure on yourself, meet as friends,see how it goes face to face....
and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): My first concern would be that he's in love with you and you haven't met.
He is in love with the idea of you he has conjured up in his head.
Photo exchanged would be first step.
Then meet up. I think he needs to return to reality and not fantasy.
Good Luck
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