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anonymous
writes:I am a stripper, and I need to know what turns on men, and what they are looking for looks-wise, and experience-wise when they visit a strip club. Thanks.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Hi there,
I used to be a dancer a little while back and well, it's not all it's cracked up to be. It was fun for the first week or so, but then it made me feel really crappy about yourself. Every night you look at the money you've made and that somehow ends up being how much you're "worth", and when you're going home after 6 hours of dancing with $30, it doesn't feel great.
I don't reccommend dancing, really I don't.
Now, I was a pretty "different" dancer, I wasn't quite as sexual as the others. I've always been kind of brainy, and believe me - in a strip club it's not as attractive. Some guys loved the fact that I would rather talk about books than shoes, but most of them ended up paying the airheads or the tough girls.
As a stripper you need to make yourself into a character. Some girls pick the airheaded character, some choose to be the tough, punk, don't-take-shit girl... some choose to be the exotic girl, or the slutty girl, or the innocent girl. Make lots of eye contact with your customers, and try to use their names while talking to them.
In terms of looks, men could CARE LESS about what you look like. As long as you're naked, they'll be thrilled with you.
Sweetness, stripping is not glamorous, in fact it kind of sucks. You feel like crap, you can't trust anyone you work with (don't trust ANYBODY. You can NOT trust anyone in the adult entertainment business), and you meet a lot of sleazy guys. Never give out your personal information to a customer (i.e. your real name, your phone number, anywhere else you work) even if you think the person is trustworthy. Make up an e-mail address with yahoo or gmail or hotmail that you can give out instead, but NEVER give out personal information.
Even if you are of legal age to drink, don't accept drinks, stay out of drug use and always keep your money and any other expensive stuff you own NEAR YOU AT ALL TIMES.
Stripping is a really skeevy business. Stay away from it if you can. Be a bartender, a cocktail waitress - they make pretty good money.
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Well they are not looking for brains, just trash. Personally like a lot of women i think these clubs are for saddo's. What's wrong with getting a good honest job, it may be less money but at least you have some self respect?Hardly a career is it?
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reader, emad khan  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Well, i can tell you that they're probably not looking for intellect, or spirtuality, although that would make an interesting stripper.. probably just being naked
will work just fine for the majority of guys.
Good luck!
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reader, eddie +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Are you really a stripper? I haven't been to a club in years but I know the reasons and desires are different for all men. Most just want to see some nude women. Others want to be part of the touchy feely routine that table dancing has become.
Some guys go there in groups and hang out, pretending they're young guys again. The reasons vary. From what I can see in Niagara Falls, the parking lots are full of cars, Canadian and American. Business must be good.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Hi,
being I just ended a relationship with a dancer(not much of a relationship)I need to ask you a couple of questions?
1) how long have you been dancing?
2) What is it in YOUR mind that turns men on?
For me, it is really in the seductive dance itself that turns me on. I dont visit clubs very often, but most men are looking for the Playboy Bunny Body,and to not feel lonely. They are looking for the fantasy in 8 inch stilletos where they think they actually have a shot with you.
Experience wise, they are looking to have you make them feel special, as they give you their wallet. They want you to look into their eyes when you lean over to pick up that sawbuck. They want lap-dances to be as close to sex as possible so they can walk away with a lighter wallet and a pitched tent. You need to be as seductive as possible, even on the nights when you don't feel it.
Men want the escape....
I'm sorry if my response seems cynical, but the relationship I had with a dancer was one of the worst I can imagine. As a matter of fact, I just walked away from it tonight.
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