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writes: Hi I'm kinda worried as I'm now 20 and the past 4 girls I have met seem to hate me after only a couple of days but why I don't know. I'm a nice, funny, good looking, kind person and a gentleman, but for some reason they don't think so even after we have been out on dates and they have said to me that I am kind, funny, good looking, nice and a gentleman. What's wrong with me? When I tell a joke it is never horrible, nasty or racist and when it comes down to buying the drinks or paying they check I do also. I always listen, talk to them and when it comes to it I tell them how beautiful they are.Can anyone help me please ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Nerve2_1 +, writes (11 August 2006):
 When you find out the answer let me know. I am 28. I have never had a girlfriend but have been on a few dates and the experience seems to be broadly similar to yours. I have been told I am "too nice"..see RJGirls post, but when I try and be other than I am...to mould myself into what these girls seem to want, that doesn't work either. At least you are "good looking"...try looking like Mr. Bean on a bad hair day!!! Good luck.
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reader, pica +, writes (11 August 2006):
You bought them drinks and told them they were beautiful .. were they? Sounds to me like you might appear a bit too keen, or fake. Don't feel you need to do or say certain things to impress. Just relax and be yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): Yes, I can help! Here's my number! Call me! J/K. You sound like a really great guy. You seem to have a lot of the qualities that women look for. What your problem is, though, I couldn't tell you. Perhaps you could post a follow-up for me and tell me about a specific date that went bad, or something along those lines. What did these girls say or do that signalled to you that they "hated" you? It could just be that these girls weren't right for you. Maybe you weren't right for them. As long as you aren't psycho or throwing food at a restaraunt, I'm sure there's nothing scaring these women off. Maybe you're just "too nice" (a phrase you can't find in my vocabulary!), and they didn't want to hurt you so they just never called. Maybe you come off as strange or quiet. Again, I'd need more information before I could tell you what I think went wrong. For now, though, just know that you simply have to be yourself and be comfortable doing so, and you could land yourself the most perfect woman in the world. I wish I had more advice. Give me a follow-up and I'll do my best to help out, or send me a private message if you want to! Take care!
~RJGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): your not doing ANYTHING wrong... you sound amazing. All girls are different, maybe you just havn't found the right one yet... Good Luck!
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