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writes:I'm in love with a guy who's far away!! I know he loves me and i love him, that's not the problem, but he's not going to move back here, and i dont think im going to move there anytime soon really. No one has, or ever will come close to him in my mind,ever. Does anyone have any tips on this one? I don't want to lose him to someone else, that would break my heart! Reply to this Question
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reader, Jaymee  +, writes (23 June 2008):
Hey there everyone i need advise too please
I met a girl online about a year ago and we have recently just dated and are totally in love now, i have never ever though i could fall in love with a girl so much it hurts because we are sooo far away, i live in canada and she lives in the u.k and we recently started talking on the phone and it's amazing, i'v spent so much money on getting a cell phone and internation time cards just to tell her i love her so much and vise versa, we are so perfect together we have already talked about getting married when i come, it's up to me to go there because she cant leave long story short but i just need the money to go there which i dont have yet im just sad because i can't go now and i want to so bad, i would do anything to leave now and be with her, i cannot see myself with anyone else ever! any advise is helpful being why i'm here thank you so much
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 There are things you can change and things which you cannot change.
You cannot stop anyone from loving him or you.
You can connect on the emotional level but not the physical level.
What he does so far away is beyond your control and knowledge.
It is better to be more philosophical of such relationships.
Loving such a man is like living in a dream.
Whether they will materialize or not will depend on fate.
Good Luck to you.
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reader, polarkite +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Every relationship requires that time is put into it.Well, here's the possibilities of things you can do with each other: 1. write real letters 2. talk on the phone 3. visit 4. take a vacation 5. play an online game (e.g. scrabulous, blokus, etc. etc.) 6. send photosAs you guys get more intimate, you can talk about this "problem" and come up with more solutions. :)If all you guys can do is talk, my opinion generally is that it's better to be friends under such circumstances, until something more substantial develops.
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reader, Baby boy +, writes (30 March 2008):
 My girlfriend recently moved away. We haven't been away from each other unce until now but we constantly remind each other that nothing will ever keep us apart. True love will bring anyone back together no matter how far away he/she is so if you truly love him your relationship should come before everything and if being away from each other puts your love at risk then you should not let something as small as move seperate you. As far as me... wel I'm going to her to be with her. I truly hope this helps you as I know how painful a long distance relationship can be so don't let yourself go through this. Love is beautiful, don't let it be tainted by tears. Do what your heart feels.
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reader, medic999  +, writes (30 March 2008):
I'm going through the same thing right now, I have met a woman that makes me feel alive, she really does only she lives literally 'miles' away.
Sadly, these things happen, however, it's not all downhill!
First thing is first, a quick story for you; i have a friend who is 25, he met his girlfriend (same age) in london when they were at college, they then went to university at 2 opposite corners of the UK, they are now married with 2 children! If you both care for and love each other deeply to the point where you can actually feel yourselves break apart with the distance then I think, personally, you are both able to remain faithful and dedicated to each other and travel to see each other everytime you can, you need to remember hon, life can present unexpected oppurtunities! Also, if you don't mind me being out of line, you say no other man will come into your mind as strongly as he does....well.....you never know, you might meet someone who compells you to fall for him and who you can practically be with!
Worst case scenario (although hopefully not) he meets someone else and you do too, you stay friends or go your seperate ways, i always say if it is meant to be then it will be and if not then it won't. you might also find 2 other people but then rekindle what you have together now in a few years when you accidentally bump into or meet each other! like i said, read my friend's story above and ask yourself "could i stay faithful to him until we decide on a definitive way for us to be together more practically!" if your answer is no then there is little point in holding onto him....if your answer is yes then you can go through ANYTHING together! hope this helps, write me back if you disagree or what more of a chat! good luck angel i wish you the best!!
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