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writes:i really like a male friend of mine an I have done for many months. Recently he admitted that he felt the same. The attraction between us is very strong and we have kissed a few times. The problem is that he has a girlfriend of two years.He tells me that he can't break up with her right now as she has a small child (not his) and has recently lost a close family member but that he wants to get to know me better. He suggested that we hang out together as friends and go to the cinema and out for meals to see how we get on. I understand that it can be difficult to end a relationship - particularly when he isn't THAT unhappy and I love the thought of spending more time with him even if it is just as friends. I know him and his girlfriend don't get out much and this seems to be the main aspect in their relationship where he is unhappy.I just can't help but feel if he was that serious about wanting to spend more time with me then he would want it to be legitimate. What do you think his intentions are by suggesting this?
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reader, TEM  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 I think he's being honest. It's very straightforward of him to tell you he has no more to offer than his friendship at the present time. The only problem I have is the kissing. Friends don't kiss.
It will be difficult for you to be friends if you have romantic feelings for him. You could be setting yourself up for heartache.
If you think you can handle it, then hang out, spend time together, be friends, but draw the line at anything physical.
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