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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok well i'll start from the beginning, I've just been in Greece for 2 weeks, went with a male friend who used to be my boyfriend. I went with him because we get on well and wanted to see if we could get back together. Over the course of the holiday he probably held my hand/put his arm around me a few times so the man I now like has got the impression we are together.We went to this small resort, ended up going to the same restaurant 10 times, there for about 2 hours a night. The guy in question is Greek and is the son of the owner of the restaurant. I got to know him quite well just chatting and in a few days I'd completely fell for him. I knew within like an hour of meeting him I wouldnt wanna leave and everyday I felt so happy when I was around him and if he smiled at me etc. He was really lovely with me, absolutely gorgeous as well and no sign or mention of a wife or a girlfriend.I bought him this silver bracelet to give to him so anyway on the last night we said bye and stuff, but i couldnt give it to him with the other guy there. So i went back to the restaurant and waited until the customers had left, i'd just had a big argument with the english guy (he wanted to get back with me but i told him its not right for me) and i was so nervous thinking i dont dare do this. The rest of the staff were in there and they would have thought it was a bit weird - as to the outside world we obviously looked like a couple. So im waiting outside and one of the men from the kitchen comes out and tries to chat me up, i said to him can he get "the greek guy" for me so he goes and brings him outside. Then hes standing right in front of me and it was pretty awkward, i was so nervous, and shaking and i give him the bracelet and it was in this box and i put my number inside and he was really sweet but a bit confused i think and he kept asking about the other guy (friend) but he didnt understand and thinks hes my boyfriend. He kissed me just on the cheeks and I messed it up, i was shaking and could hardly speak and for some reason I said i should go (as the bus was picking us up to go to the airport in an hour), he said maybe he'll see me again i said maybe and I left.My problem is that I havent heard anything from him, im trying to be patient but im going crazy and i dont know what to do. I know hes really busy working 16+ hour days and so maybe i should wait a bit longer. But my question is this: should I email the restaurant or write to him or is that stalking, or go back out alone and be more calm? I dont wanna push it but i think he thinks ive got a boyfriend, or maybe he just doesnt like me. If i wrote to him I could explain the situation more, and apologise for being awkward - im not usually like that. This was Friday night and I know its soon after but I want to know for definite one way or the other rather than wondering.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (6 October 2009):
 I live in a place similar to the one you visited. I have bad news for you. Every time a flight lands a new set of holiday romances begin. Mostly they end when the plane takes off again for home.
It's a macho thing for Greek men (Mediterranean men) to have an English girlfriend). Even if a relationship gets as far as marriage, which it rarely does, the cultural differences are too great in the end, and the woman ends up alone and stranded in a foreign country.
She won't have the support of family and friends and she will have given up her life in UK.
If he were at all interested he would have contacted you or arranged to fly over to see you by now.
You were smitten. It happens to us all. Now please have the good sense to say 'thanks for a great time' and move on.
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