A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello, I was in love with a boy(my neighbour)who proposed me 10 years before. We spent a lot of time together. My family and I did a lot for him...helping him in his studies, job, personal development etc.He got a better job than me.His parents approach my parents for our marriage on his pressure but they actually did not want him to marry me because I am more talented and educated than him (although they never said it directly to us). But my family agreed to their marriage proposal as they thought that he love me so he would care for me. But just because my parents were unable to marry me till february 2007. He broke his relationship with me, saying very harsh words for my parents and rude behaviour with me. And now he is marrying some other girl of his family's choice. But he still calls me and trying to remain my friend.He is already having a number of friends with whom he is always busy. I am really very disheartened now.It is sometimes very difficult to tolerate what he has done with me. Now As he is my neighbour, they will invite us on his marriage.He also want me to meet his wife. Pls suggest me how should I behave in future with him and his family members...especially- his wife.... Personally I am really feeling very hurted and cannot bear it all. But Right now I am answering them all politely, hiding my sadness and broken heart.....
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reader, penta  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Good for you. Take the high road and wish them well, but do not attend the wedding and do not be his friend. Be cordial and respectful, but distant. When he abandoned you he lost the benefits of your friendship. Let any who gossip see how well you are handling this and what a jerk he is to have treated you so poorly (you have to hold your head high and not be rude for this to work).
Feel lucky that you didn't get stuck with this guy for life and move on.
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