A
female
age
41-50,
*nxiety
writes:okay so i am supposed to go out with my ex this weekend, for drinks and dinner, we did it two weeks ago and had an awesome time cause i did not bring up our status. He asked for 3 months time to decide and we are almsot apporaching 2 months, i do not see any change in him ( he does not tell me what he is feeling unless i ask and then he has to be in the mood to want to have the discussion) so I gave up on asking cuase the first time i asked it was to soon and then when i ask it makes it seem as if i am helpless. well this satruday i am going to go and have the time of my life I am going to enjoy it as it if where the last time we are going to be together. thing is i kind of want to tell him that i think we should lay low from each for the next couple of weeks and see what happens, becuase i think still emailing and having very brief phone conversations, I do not think that he is getting out of this what he wants or thinks he is looking for and i am just tired of crying over him and being depressed every day. I feel that i need to let him know that i am going to move on with my life, which he has never asked me to stop, he told me that i should take the time and examine things too and see what i want... what should i do, i already mentioned this to him briefly, but should i talk about it on the date or should i just have the time of my life, not say anything. say good bye at the end of the night and know that they might be the end of us???? play hard to get if he calls and ignore him for a couple of days so he see that i can be okay on my own without him?? thanks for any advice....
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 you have some ideas but i think i would go with telling him that when you ask for a break you actually take a break and you don't ring or email them. tell him that. because i think yes he is having a hard time but he may also be stringing you a long. give him the time than see because spending time with you isn't helping keep away and give eachother space to think about things you both may end up together or relaise that you both are ok without eachother. good luck xxx
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