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writes:soo c: I have a boyfriend and he is a couple months younger than me. we both have talked about sex and we really want to have it but I'm worry that my parents will find out and I don't know if I'm old enough either /: Help3 Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): i must agree i lost my v card at 14 and we dated for 2 years but after all that im with a better woman who treats me like i should and i treat her like she deserves and i feel horrible that we couldnt have lost our v card to eachother it woulda been more romantic and amazing there me and my first had to hide and sneak around our parents back which made me feel guilty after sex plus waiting until yall are both ready will make things go smoother and make it feel better especially if you wait till yall are 18 so if yall do have sex make sure that yall are ready and have a condom even if it means you have to ask a friend to buy one for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): Wait till you are old enough. your still young and many things can happen between now and then. I made the mistake of giving into my ex when i was only sixteen and wish that i hadn't. It was extremly painful and now i wished I had waited. He and I are now no longer together and Im with a man now that treats me right and better and I wish i could give my whole self too him but can't. Wait till your eighteen then you won't have to worry aobut your parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): WAIT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): I lost my virginity when I was 15, I am 17 now. I am still with the same person I lost it to but everytime we do it i am scared we will get caught. It sucks because I'm not even able to enjoy it, I've never even had an orgasm because I am always too nervous to concentrate. While i enjoy the intimacy, I don't think I have ever enjoyed sex fully as we are always hiding and stuff. Luckily I've never been caught but if i ever do I won't be allowed to have a boyfriend anymore, my mother would completely freak out.. I'd suggest you wait, I know what I am talking about...
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reader, LovelyLemon +, writes (16 March 2012):
 I totally understand the sexual urges and frustrations of being in your age group. However, it is important to realize that most of these urges are coming from this huge influx of hormones that your body is producing, not from logic, and probably not even from real, deep love.Trust me, honey, you are going to wish that you had waited until you were older and with someone that you were in love with in the future. I had a bf that I loved at your age, but I knew that I wasn't really ready for sex. I broke up with him after 3 and a half years! We ever had sex. I am now engaged to a man that I love, and I am so glad that I saved that special bond so that I could share it with him.Although many people have now given you great advice, no one can control your actions. If you do decide to have sex so young, despite our warnings, then be sure to use protection such as condoms. Please keep your health in mind, physical and mental. I guarantee that you are not going to feel good about yourself if you go through with it. Please wait and take care of yourself.Much love and Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): The simple answer is no you are not old enough at all. In the uk u have to be 16 and the us i believe is 18, in order for you to give concent to have sex. My advice would be to wait until you are older when you dont have to worry about breaking the law or having a massive row with your parents. Sex should not be something that you feel guilty for doing xxx
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (16 March 2012):
 You really aren't old enough.
You aren't finished growing, you aren't finished maturing.
There is a reason the US has laws saying that you must be 18 years or older to have sex.
Once you are 18, or older, then your body will be a mature woman's body, your mind will be more developed.
At your age, boys do not know how to successfully please a woman. I tell you right now, if you have sex with your boyfriend, it will be painful, because he will not be mature enough to know how to properly please someone of the female persuasion.
Trust me, save yourself the pain and wait until you two are a little older. Wait until you are of legal age to have sex, and when he can successfully please you to the point of an orgasm. Then you know you two are ready for sex, and at 18+, you can move out, and not have to worry about your parents.
Also, I'm just going to throw this out there, there's also the chance of pregnancy or STDs. Pregnancy at your age is not fun. Heck, pregnancy at ANY age isn't fun, puking, eating strange things, back pains, and during the last bit, you've got some baby inside of you kicking the heck out of your ribcage.
And if you get an STD, it can be anywhere from Crabs to HIV/AIDS, which weakens your immune system so much that you essentially die by getting sick.
So hopefully my descriptions of what will happen if things go wrong, and my advice on waiting will do you some good.
And besides, if you two really love each-other, you have the rest of your lives, no need to do it so soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): I agree. The fact that your worried about your parents finding out shows that your not old enough to start having sex. I suggest you wait until you are of legal age in your area.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2012): Sweetpea the fact you are still worried about your parents finding out tells me you are not old enough.....
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