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writes:I love my boyfriend. We actually plan on getting married and have picked out the ring. The only problem is that, I can't stand the way he treats his body. He smokes, even though he's been trying to quit for a over a year, he drinks a lot and doesn't drink water or excercise. I am not saying I'm perfect, but the way he's going i'm scared to say the least. I tried to tell him and all he says is he's trying, but i have never seen it. He constantly has health problems and doesn't see that everything he's doing is effecting him. I can't stay still and act like nothing is wrong, I love him too much to do that, but I don't want to leave him. I can't even begin to say how much it's starting to affect the way I treat him. I just want him to be healthy, is that too much to ask?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): If you have any issues then i think you shouldnt even consider getting married to him. You do love him because you are worried about his health. Have a good long chat with him and explain that you would be happier if he would just quit the smoking, drink less and do a bit of exercise. I mentioned once to someone about taking up dancing. Why not get him involved with something like that. You two go along and learn salsa dancing, very sexy and you get to exercise, while learning and having fun. Why does he drink so much? Get to root of that one, and get him to cut down if he cannot stop and the same with the smoking. There are a lot of helpful sites on the internet who could help him to quit both. I wish you all the best and i am sure he does appreciate you feeling this way.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 hello.
i can see that you are concerned about your bf health that is a good thing, i dont understand why you are suddenly thinking about the bad things, is he not the same person you fell in love with, when you first met he must have been the same then as he is now,could it be wedding nerves,do you have any doubts,or is it simply that you have changed your mind, i would not marry him,until you have sorted your self out, it would be such a pity if you marry, then suddenly decide that you have made a mistake, then divorce, i think that you should really consider if you are doing the right thing by getting married, if you are not as sure now then it would be best not to go through with it.
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