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*ustaGuy
writes:Hey all,Me and my ex hav'nt spoken in a week and a half. She broke up with me last sunday - for the 3rd time in 4 months. She is very on/off, one minute she is telling me she loves me and dreaming of our future together, the next she is telling me to forget her and move on.We have'nt seen each other in about a month but speak on the phone/msn everynight, this distance i know was a factor in her breaking up with me, but she used to promise it didnt matter as it was only temporary.Anyway, I will be in her neighbourhood tomorow.The question, Should I go visit her??????I left on a sour note because I was angry at the way she treated me. After a breakup over the summer she said she wanted to try again, so we did. All was going well (i thought) until she again dropped the bombshell on sunday. Deep down I dont think she knows what she wants, as soon as we begin to get really close again she breaks it off, and it tears my heart apart. Anyway like I said, Should I go visit?logically I'm thinking NO! Because no good can come from it, I can numb the pain of missing her for the few hours only to be kicked to the kurb again. Even if she does take me back I'm pretty sure it would just be rosey for a few weeks and then she'll break my heart again.But on the other hand I do miss her and would like to see her again! We shared many good times and its those that I keep hold of.I really want to be strong on this and not go 'crawling back'! I want to show her that even the 'nice guys' walk away if you treat them badly. I am a man of dignity and wont put up with her crap! I guess I know the answer, I just need some words of strength/advice to think of as I walk past her door. thanks all.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (1 November 2007):
 I think absolutly not, you dont need this everyone deserves to be happy and you are letting her walk all over you!
Is this on off situation making you happy?
If you keep crawling back how many more times are you going to allow her to do this to you?
Like you said you already know the answer its just a case of being stronger and saying enough is enough,
Good luck x
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