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writes:This is real complicated. This guy and I found out we both liked each other a couple of days ago, but the problem is, we will soon be 10+ hours of flight apart. We've hung out together on a few dates, held hands, kissed, cuddled. But the problem is, we kind of left things open in the air, ie neither of us addressed what is to be done when we're so far apart. I'm not sure how to go around this, because we didn't really get to know each other well until 2 weeks ago, so I'm not entirely confident I know him well enough to see if he's just playing around. Everything he's done so far has been really great, and I have no doubts he is a nice guy. Just that when it comes to sticky situations like this, I'm pretty sure he is probably just as frustrated as I am, hence we both kind of avoided asking any further. Any advice would be great! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 May 2012):
 I agree with Cindy.
I just finished a year long LDR. We were a 2 hour car drive apart and saw each other once we were serious every weekend and it was hard to be apart during the week even with multiple daily phone calls and emails...
a ten hour plane ride means minimal visits and without face to face contact on a regular basis LDRs that have a strong foundation to start suffer...
you have minimal history with this person... I don't think that the LDR will be in your best interest..
and if this is a permanent move for him, you have to figure that one day one of you or both of you will have to move again to make this work.
Nope I think it's best to relegate this to a very nice memory.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 I don't think this is the advice you want to hear, anyway IMO you should just let it go . Chalk it up to " a few nice dates " and move on.
LDRs are extremely difficult even for seriously committed people. 10 hours distance is often too much to handle even for people who are crazily in love, imagine just vaguely " in like ". And, at your age, with probably no means, no money and no deinite plans to reunite soon or at least to visit often.
It would be a waste of time, and you'd just build up a lot expectations for something that 9 out 100 will justle fizzle sometime soon.
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