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writes: me and my boyfriend of 3 years broke up, we kno the love we had, hav.. shared.. i thought that it was the best thing and stuff but i don't think so anymore, i miss him so muchh.. i dunno! we broke up coz we had fights and he said he didn't love me anymore but then he said to his friends that he still loves me ? is that because he jus wants to let me go ?plz help me find a way to get him bak. dont tell me, not to.. coz i've made up my mind it's wat i want =(
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Call him out and have a friendly chat with him.
Eat humble pie if you have to.
If he rejects you , don't give up easily .
Try again after a few days.
Keep your communications lines open.
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reader, Namatjira  +, writes (27 March 2008):
He is the one you have to tell. At the very least you need to also ask him if you can talk about it all. If the break up was your idea, expect him to be hurt and angry.
You should also accept the fact that despite your best efforts it might really be over and he may choose to not come back to you. If he does you must, I repeat must, respect that. It will hurt like hell and it will take you a while to get over it. But that is the only choice you have because if you try to manipulate things otherwise, he will see through it, be driven further away, and is likely to see you as a bunny boiler. If it does turn out to be over and beyond repair, at least keep your dignity and you just may be able to keep him as a friend.
Once more, let me remind you that despite all your best efforts he may still not want to come back. That is beyond your control. All you can do is to talk with him about how you feel, that it was a mistake which you deeply regret. And ask him if he would consider coming back if perhaps you both saw a relationship counsellor to help you both to deal with the issues that result in these fights. Then listen to him, really listen.
Good luck.
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