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writes:Okay, I am 14..going to be 15 in oct. and i like this guy and he is 17 to be 18 in july..i like him he likes me we went out on a date, my parents really like him, but the other day he said he is bothered by the age difference, its only a little over 3 years, i dont see the big deal. Reply to this Question
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reader, tracieENCORE +, writes (9 May 2007):
 A 3 year diffrence ain't that much of a big deal. if he really cares about you and wants to date you ge wouldn't mind..talk to him about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): 14 will get you 20 (years in prison) he should run like hell
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): As cd206 alluded to and I agree with her--it likely has a lot to do with having sex and the age of consent issues, hun. The old expression 'jailbait' comes to my mind here and that may be causing some rethinking, on his part. But if you don't think the age of consent thing is it...then you should be asking him "why" the age difference bothers him. It could be that perhaps, he's dating around casually, to finding that girl that is most compatible to him. So sit him down and see what he says. The sooner you find out the better. Tell him to be honest and frank with you. You deserve to know. I know you don't see it as a big deal, but for him to bring it up..he clearly sees an issue with this. It's hard to advise you on this-you have to ask him, yourself! But not matter what, it sounds like he's not into wanting this dating relationship. My advice: Have fun and date other people. Don’t want to waste your time on someone who doesn’t see a future dating relationship with you.
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reader, nimmo  +, writes (6 May 2007):
i dont think age difference matters personally tell him how deepley you care for him and see what his expression is if he ignores it then he aint worth the hassle. but who knows he may just realise some deeper true feelings to you best of luck hun
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reader, beautifulllove +, writes (6 May 2007):
 well really you live in the united states and if you get caught having sex with some one over 18 and your not 18 yet than he'll go to jail but any ways maybe he scared of getting in trouble or some thing. we really cant tell you why he feels this way but all i can tell you is that you may need to talk it out with him
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reader, cd206 +, writes (6 May 2007):
 My guess is that he wants different things out of the relationship than you do because of his age... namely things like sex. Guys his age, and I'm not saying he is like this, tend to want casual sex with lots of girls. Therefore he's no doubt a little cautious about having a sexual relationship with you, especially since even if you have consensual sex before you're 16 it's illegal and he could end up getting sent to prison. Now maybe what I just said scared you because you have no intention of having sex or maybe you didn;t know the ramifications of underage sex as well as he does but that's likely to be the thinking behind his decision if you ask me.
My advice would be to tell him that you understand but that you really like him and would like to think you can work through the age issues but if he's not willing keep him as a friend. In three years when you're 17 and he's 20 things will be a lot different.
CD
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