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writes:theres this girl im majorly falling for and i dont know what to do, we've met a few times and we had Sex at a party the other night, but she says now things are too fast and she doesn't want a relationship at the moment... but i cant get her out of my head, she's there all the time, all i can think about is her and i think i'm falling in love with her but i dont wanna come across as obsessive, i dont know her that well but for some reason ive taking to her big time?what do i do?what should i say? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I'm awfully sorry almighty, this may very well be a case that defies all scientific theories: girls can as well pursue no strings sex, yes, and the experience can leave you with a bitter taste when you are unaware. To me it appears as though she is not ready for a solid relationship but rather that she is in a stage of experimenting with sex, as many boys your age are. Please don't blame yourself the encounter did not consequent into a full relationship, and remember she may not be in a stage where she is interested in stable liaisons. http://www.positive.org/JustSayYes/safesex.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I think it is natural for men to want to save the queen, or to rescue and protect the danzel in distress. Problem is, she doesn't need rescued. If you pursue her, you might frigthen her more. Just back off and involve yourself with other things. Your both very young, and having a romance at this age is not advised. School should be your number one concern, and relationship second (including friends).
Sorry this doesn't help you in winning her heart, but one step at a time.
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reader, jezman +, writes (18 May 2008):
 calm down and collect yourelf. be careful for your brain may be a wiser choice than your heart here. so how long did you like her before you had sex? you're doing the right thing, to not be obsessive. just make sure that your open and truthful to her. you say you dont know her that well? then chat with her over msn or something like that and get to know her, find similarities. she says that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment so dont force it on her. let her grow on you. keep us updated on the situation :-P
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