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We had sex and now he won't talk to me. What's going on?

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Question - (4 May 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 3 October 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

ok. so theres this guy. weve been mztes for about 8/ months. now ans again we aould have a little kiss and cuddle but wouldnt say anything about it afterwards. then recently we both spoke and told each other we really like each other, but we agreed we will just see how things go.. then the pther night i was round at his, just having a night in, wotching telly and stuff.. when he kissed me.. one thing lead to another and we ended up haing a really passionate wasnt just sex, it was really intimate and nice.. all along him telling me he really wants me and has done for quite a wile, him calling me sexy, saying i am the most beautiful girl he had ever seen. he even told me he loved me. i said t back. we made love quite a few times, each time getting more and more intimte and passionate. when i left he gave me a hug and a final kiss and sain see you tomorrow gawgus... about an hour later i recieved a text saying "i have just been thinking, we should not see each other agian, we chould no longer be friends and should have nothing to do with each other ever agian. dont as questions, just accept it" i have replied, tried ringing but have not eard anything since.. what is going on??

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008):

I'm a guy. I can say that girls are the same way.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008):

If your boyfriend has loved you enough for you to have sex, then he still must love you, someone might have stole his phone and text you that message. That or he just only wanted sex all along

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008):

Either he really just wanted into your pants the whole time you've known him, or else he's as messed-up as you are about it all and this is a knee-jerk way of protecting himself.

If the sex & stuff was really close for him too, then maybe it just scared the shit out of him. Maybe he's scared that it will get more serious than he wants if he doesn't put the brakes on right now and step back.

If he's really just "over it" with you now, you'll have to judge that based on the rest of his personality. Is he known to be a player? Is this reaction to first-time sex common for him at all? Is he "out of your league" in terms of what partners he could get? Etc.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008):

this guy sounds seriously immature and messed up. forget him..he only wanted sex and told you what you wanted to hear to get it. unfortunately many men are like this. don´t ring or text him..keep your pride and dignity. If you pursue him you make it easier for him to be a jerk to you.

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