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anonymous
writes:I recently and very unexpectedly had sex with a guy I had just met from the neighbourhood. I thought he was a half decent person and didn't expect much afterwards. However, I ended up getting much less. Initially it was decided that we would get together again, but I didn't follow through because I figured that a genuine interest would lead to another invitation issued at a more neutral moment. That didn't happen, which is fine. But I keep running into this man who won't make eye contact with me and things are really uncomfortable and awkward. I wouldn't have any ill feelings, except for this great effort to ignore me when it would just be easier to nod. I am fine knowing that he feels he made a mistake and in fact has no interst in me, but it seems a little childish that a man in his late thirties is acting this way. I have tried to ease the awkwardness by acknowledging him, but it is impossible when someone deliberately looks the other way and refuses to make eye contact. Whats the best thing to do?
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reader, califnan  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 You were never repulsive.. This person's feelings of shame or whatever - were from within himself.. Know who you are in Christ Jesus.. a beautiful, whole, complete woman.. Any way that a mear mortal would look at you - would not change this ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate: Well not that this is in any way meaningful, but at least this person is no longer averting his eyes when he sees me. I am, however, starting to feel better about the situation. At least I feel slightly less repulsive to this person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the response. I am very disappointed and this is not the way I would have chosent things to be, but it is probably the best way I can deal with the situation.
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reader, califnan +, writes (30 August 2009):
Since you have already tried to acknowledge him.. try to tune him out.. Sex or making love produces such a bond, that it is really a shame that this has happened.. Try to occupy your life with the productive things that you have always wanted to do to enhance your being .. And stay in your own little world when the two of you approach..
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