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writes:Please help me.. My boyfriend and I have a strong relationship, and I love him to death. He is kinda half-emo, and he's cut himself before. I don't want it to happen again..We got in an argument and he's threatening to cut himself this Friday.. I don't want him to do this to himself.. Please, someone help me!I know I sound desperate, but I can't talk any sense into him! His mom is always working, so I can't tell her.. And everything I'm saying isn't working..Please help me.. Please.. Reply to this Question
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reader, tomtom1  +, writes (7 October 2009):
Is he threating to cut himself over your argument or is it a call for help? Why would he plan it a couple days out?
Anyhow someone who is self abusive needed professional help. No matter what you tell yourself you can't help him, neither can his mom. Talk to a counselor at your school.
This probably will pass in a day or two and everything will get better. You'll forget about it, don't let yourself though. He needs help, be there for him by getting him help.
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reader, nicollieollie  +, writes (7 October 2009):
i think this is a low attempt to get attention. He is definitely not going about it in the right way whatsoever. He shouldn't hold it over your head that every time something doesn't go his way, hes going to threaten to cut himself. The only thing I can think of ( other than going to counseling which would be a good idea for him... and maybe you can go with him if he wants ) is tell him you love him but if he does that it will hurt you too much and why would he do that to somebody he loves ? He is causing you hurt and making you worry and perhaps you are feeling guilty for the arguement and thats not fair to you. Take care 3
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (7 October 2009):
 You're telling me that he is going to cut himself and he actually has the date planned out ahead of time, and he is threatening you with this?! I have never cut, so this whole concept sounds really foreign to me, but there is something fishy about someone who says, "I am going to cut myself this Friday!" It just doesn't sound right. It sounds manipulative. He's looking for pity and attention. You may say, "But he's emo." But what is that anyway? Cause, you know, we're all emo in our hearts, each and every last one of us humans. We all have hurt feelings. I've had my feelings hurt severely enough in my own life, and have wallowed in self-pity long enough, that if I had decided to start wearing emo clothes and listen to emo music and adopt a habit of cutting, I would be covered in cuts from head to toe. But you should not and must not allow a subcultural label to define and reinforce negative self-destructive emotions and actions in your life. You are an individual, you decide how you act, if you let the label take over your life, you are not an individual anymore. What you are is LOST. I'm really not sure how you want to handle this. But however you do handle it, remember that you are setting a precedent. If you don't give in to his threats and don't dote him with a lot of attention, then he may end up feeling even more slighted. But if you give in to these threats of pre-planned self-mutilation, and give him whatever he wants, you are setting a precedent in which he only gets to manipulate you more and more and more as time goes by. So it's up to you which road you want to take with this.
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