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writes:My ex and I dated for 5 years and I broke up with him 3 years ago. We went a year without speaking and over two years without seeing each other. Since then I have seen him a few times (lunch, hang out) usually his idea. Last week he called and asked if I wanted to go to dinner. The conversation felt very natural and we started talking about why we broke up. We both apologized for some things and had some good laughs. He said he thought we were two normal people that just didn't make it work and that I was the last normal one he'd dated. He said he was tired of dating women that either didn't have things in common with him, lied to him or cheated on him. I apologized for some of my insecurities and he said that of all the people he would hold a grudge against, I would not be one of them and not to worry about it. He brought up the first time we met. He brought up the first time we saw each other after I left and said he was nervous to see me after all that time, that he thought we would run into each other out somewhere and he had no idea so much time would pass without seeing the other. After our dinner he left some pictures at my house. The other night I reminded him I had the pics. He asked if he could pick them up that night and suggested we watch tv together. (I said yes). Is he being nostalgic? Clearing the air for a good friendship? Or does he still love me? I had just assumed he would not want me back (I wasn't nice when I left) and even though I still have strong feelings for him, I was willing to push those to the side since I was lucky enough to still be his friend.
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reader, PM  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 It's hard to say what he's feeling without actually seeing him interact with you. Attraction between two people is one of those things that is communicated through body language and voice tone much more effectively than through the written word.
If you are fine with only being friends with him and are not opposed to something more than just sit back and let him lead the relationship. He seems to be a fairly straightforward guy, so give him time to show his true intentions. I know it may be difficult since you seem like an intelligent woman and intelligence tends to cause over-thinking and fixation. Let go of the thoughts for once and keep living your life. He'll show you what he wants eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): I think he still loves you. he wants to spend time with you and he was nervous when you were going to see eachother again.
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