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writes:A lad ive liked for a while now, n who said he liked me, has started having "casual sex" with a woman in her middle/late 20's. we werent in a relationship but we were almost there and now i feel like he strung me along a bit? now hes saying that we can still "do things together" even though hes sleeping with her but im not comfortable with it - should i just tell him to leave me alone n forget about him? or should i just still carry on talking to him? stupidly, i still really like him :( so confused! plz help! x Reply to this Question
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Hmm. Even if you get with this guy your mind will still be disturbed from what's happening and worse he could cheat along your relationship since, if he was ready then why would he sleep with another women if he had the chance to for you?
Not worth it in my case hun. Best wishes! Sarah.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): The others are right, there is nothing wrong with you. For whatever brain grout this guy is in, sex with an older woman makes good story telling to his friends. If he is around 18 yo, then this is most typical of boys this age, not reliable.
It might be better for you to move on and find a more mature boy your age or a few years older. Not all boys are created equal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): We have all been there before darling so dont beat yourself up about this. You do deserve better than him, so dont let this get to you. Move on and kick this losers arse to the kerb.
Mail me if you want.
xxx
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (7 April 2008):
Just another thing to add...
Just because he is sleeping with someone else that doesnt mean you are not good enough for him. I know some girls think that when a guy wont commit to them that its because somthing is wrong with them, like they arent perfect enough for them to have a commitment made to. Its not like that at all if thats what you are thinking. Its to do with HIM. He simply doesnt want anything more then sex from ANY girl. he just has sex on the brain.
So I hope you dont take him trying to use you too personally, although i know its hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the answer HappyToChat! x
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reader, happytochat +, writes (7 April 2008):
Hey darling,
First of all you are NOT stupid for liking this guy even though he may not be right for you.
You said you were almost in a realtionship, what makes you think that? Do you think its possible that he was just trying to make you believe you could have a relationship, so you would sleep with him? That sounds like a high chance to me from what you have said. The fact that he is still willing to 'do things' with you, while he sleeps with someone else further suggests he probably never did want a relationship.
I know you like him and sometimes we cant control who we like. Sometimes we like people who arent good enough for us. I think you deserve a lot more! You deserve someone who is commited to you. This boy isnt that person unfortunately.
Write a list of all the things you want in your DREAM guy, such as commitment, caring, respects you, cares for you, similar values and morals as you etc...whatever it is you want. Then ask yourself how many of those qualities did this guy have? He surely didnt show any commitment. And he likes to sleep around which says alot about who he is, and his values...so they are probably different from yours since you arent comfortable with this.
Realise that you deserve a guy who has all the qualities you want, dont setle for less. This guy cant be who you want him to be. He is only interested in sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): welll...
be like how can you like me and still sleep with someone
what kinda maddness itsh tha
n if he dnt stop fucking that chiick then he obviously dont like you..]
good luckk
x Smirksz x
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