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writes:I kinda like this guy, Or I liked him last school year (we are both 15) But hes in a higher grade than me. So This year ( and last..) I see him looking at me.. if its from a rather close distance I look at him and he quickly turns his head down or away but not looking at anything or anyone, but when its further away he keeps looking and then we maybe both look awaybut look again... He has also once tryed to bump into me and our hands touched and he has before either turned around completely to watch me walk.. and in the pizzaaria ( :D ) looked at me and then his friend looked and he talked with him and turned really red and smiled.. Not only me has noticed this :) I hope that you will find a good answer to this and help me :D Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): Well there are two options:
Keep trying...but don't make yourself look desperate.
Or,
Forget about him...i know its easier said than done but BELIEVE me...there are a lot of guys (good guys) out there...
I still think you need to get over your shyness...just go and say hi...ask for help...i told u this ages ago!
Now get moving - life is too short to think too much!! Talk to him and then tell us how it goes :)
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reader, justwannabehappy +, writes (2 September 2010):
justwannabehappy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks! but im still pretty sad and feel a little heart broken because he hasnt even looked at me in the past days... But i havent looked at him much before that.. but it doesnt feel like hes interested now! If you now that feeling of when you feel some vibes from another person withoutt words :)?
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reader, RIKI93dw  +, writes (2 September 2010):
There's no real way to get over shyness in the long term but in the short you could listen to a certain type of music or a specific song that gives you what you need, it's what I do, sumtimes it works. But with you're shyness you will see how brave you are and by just going up to him and saying "hi" you really don't have anything to lose and if he don't catch on it's his loss but remember he probably feels the same as you do and probably going through similar things aswell. You both just need to give eachother a chance when you bump into him again say hi maybe chat and exchange numbers if you havnt already and arrange to meet up some where the important thing is that one of you gets the courage to just go up to the other and say "hi"
I hope this helps you
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reader, justwannabehappy +, writes (1 September 2010):
justwannabehappy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut im so shy i dont know what and how to talk to him.. Im a pretty girl, theres nothing wrong with me and im popular but im just so shy because hes in a higher grade.. and stuff. Im afraid hes gonna refuse me but I really dont wanna live my life wondering what COULD have happened or what i really wasted my time with!? How do I get over my shyness(which only exists in this area)?
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reader, justwannabehappy +, writes (30 August 2010):
justwannabehappy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI reaaaaally want to talk t o him to see if theres something more there ! Maybe it could be love if we get to know each tother.. So I really have to suck up and go and talk to him about something.. Today he held the door for me even though I was far behind and I said thank you, but he didnt answer ... But thanks alot for the responses I really appreciate it! :D
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reader, RIKI93dw +, writes (30 August 2010):
Ok it's obvious he's Into you but has no idea how to go about it he's clueless so to speak what you could do next time you see him go talk to him he definitely wants to talk to you but again has no idea what to do. So you could start the conversation maybe about school, work etc or maybe tell him that you've noticed him looking at you but this would make him very nervous towards you. You could wait for him to get the confidence to talk to you but it seems this could take a while as it seems he has been watching movies to find way maybe he wants it to be a perfect thing maybe give you that "it was just like a movie feeling" he wants to do right by you but is scared or worried that he could mess it up and lose you so the best thing to do is ask how he feels about you and work on it from there.
I hope this can help
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): I think there will only be progress in this situation if one of you actually makes a move and approaches the other one. He might approach you in time...or he may not. But why wait around for him to make a move? Why not be brave? If it seems scary, you could start off slowly. So next time you look at each other, instead of immediately looking away, you could smile. If you walk past each other or bump into one another, you could say hello. Little things like that. It will probably make you feel more confident around him too. And if you get to a point where you feel brave, you could maybe go up to him and start a conversation. It doesn't matter what it's about, it could be something simple. You could ask him how his school work is going, or make some comment about something around you. Anything! It will be enough to get things moving. But definitely, have courage! Be brave and go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): I guess you both have something going on.....i think the time's gone when the guy was supposed to make the 'move'. I say go ahead - talk to him. There's no harm in talking to someone...even friends do that,right?
Since you mentioned that he's a grade older - maybe you could approach him for some notes or some help with some subject...you can always think of an excuse :)
Good luck.
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