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writes: Okay, me and this boy have been together for a long time. I know he loves me, and he knows that I love him, but we argue over the stupidest stuff ever and it gets us into a huge fight. We always say, well maybe we should break up, it's for the best, but I don't know. I hate to throw everything we have away, over nothing. I don't know what to do, because I love this boy more than anything, and I don't know how many times I have told him. I don't want to lose him. I just don't know what to do. Please help me. I need it..lol Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): just try to avoid fights and when you do get into arguments,try to think or do something that you both think are funny and enjoyable.from anonymous
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reader, mr antonio  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 its real simple if the love is there just spend some time apart,for example go out with friends so you can have experience apart youll have more things to talk about,dont be together all the time thats a big no no,i went through the same things.when we argued about sayin good night i realized all it is is lack of interestin conversation. good luck happens to the best of us
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reader, Fiera  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 I am having a similar problem...I agree with pops+ it is about maturity in some aspects...I remember I used to argue with everyone over every little thing up until near the end of junior high...when an event in my life caused me to learn that being like that doesn't help. Anyway my point is boys mature slower then girls by about four years it's been scientifically proven somehow..anyway my boyfriend still thinks it's a good idea to argue about every little thing even though he is almost a year older then me. And as great as all thoose answers of just take some time apart are...it just isn't possible sometimes...I live with my boyfriend in a different county then my parents and am currently attending college...so i can't very well seperate myself from him right now...i can go to a different room but thats about it...so what i have found that sometimes works is writing out all your feelings about the arguements you are having and the current state that your relationship is in...then after that you can try talking about it ...but talking about it before giving him a written account he can't argue with usually results in arguing...anyway i hope this helps you..cause my boyfriend is currently insisting on arguing with me and hasn't said anything since i gave him the letter..which he hasn't done before so this isn't really helping me...but i can't find an original answer to this problem anywhere...anyway good luck with your relationship....Our 3 year dating anniversary is in 1 day...so i hope he hurrys up and comes to his senses
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): okay, I can honestly say i know exactly how you feel. And it sucks. I mean maybe its not your fault for the fights..but maybe it is..like in my case. ok,so you fight over really stupid things. this is because you have become so close with him. When you first started doing this..did he stand by you..when you acted pyschotic..did he wait for you..want for you to be happy and stop being mad at him but now it seems like he cares less and is tired of dealing with it..tho somehow you have to.do you feel as if..every fight is because of you..well what me and my boyfriend are trying to do with this issue is take some time apart. Things that used to be fine now annoy eachother...just take some time apart and im not saying a lot. just spend maybe only 80 percent as much as you do now. well good luck
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reader, pops +, writes (13 September 2005):
If the arguments are over nothing, stop arguing. Find something to make each other laugh instead. You are young, and it takes more maturity for most people to learn when to pick a fight, and when to let things be. You are normal, for your age. But, you can also learn from this. There are important things in life to argue about. Most of spend our time arguing about the non-important things, because we don't want to talk about the important issues. I watched my parents argue for 54 years about the fact my mother squeezed the toothpaste tube in the middle, instead of from the end, as my father did, and preferred. It was about nothing, but it allowed them to blow off steam and avoid, sadly, talking about what was really bothering them about each other. When we suggested that they have separate toothpaste tubes, you would have thought we were filing the papers to begin the divorce from their reactions. You can live like that, or decide to do things differently.
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reader, woory solver +, writes (13 September 2005):
its normal!theres nothing to worry about
your fine
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reader, susu  +, writes (13 September 2005):
maybe you are just a little bit too close? sometimes when you love someone you think ( and it does seem right, it isnt though) that you should spend all your time together and do everything together and tell each other everything. thats wrong maybe you need a bit of space apart. i dont mean time off i mean less time. and anyway sweetie it takes two to have an argument try asking him to explain why he is upset over these so called stupid things, they might not be as stupid as you think and anyway when he sees that your trying to co- operate lets say he's bound to appreciate it and calm down. good luck biting your lip
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