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writes:We are both 15 and my girlfriend told me she had given someone a hand job and was fingered before. I know she has learned that she did it too early and with someone she didn't trust. I love her too much to let it ruin it, but I feel like crap. Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): this is me the guy who asked this question. Thanks you two. I really needed a third person view on this. She told me 3 days ago and we are past it and looking toward a happy and healthy relationship. The only thing that concerns me is that she is probably traumatized about it all... I mean we might do that stuff sometime, but i don't want to feel uncomfortable. I haven't even kissed her yet, and i have never done things like she has. But I think we can handle it. I don't know when the right time will be but I am NOT going to even consider pushing her to do that. Never. I love her too much. And she loves me the same. I think we have something not too many couples have at age 15. Thanks for your help!
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reader, hugs2muchgal +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Everybody has a past. She regrets what she did and knows she can't take it back, and by sharing this personal information with you she is showing you how much she trusts you.If I were you, I'd either get over it and move past this or you're going to have to break up. Breaking up isn't what you want though so if you have to, discuss your feelings with your girlfriend or just think it through until you can wrap your head around the idea of your girlfriend having a past before you go furtherin your relationship.Think of it this way. She's still a virgin. She loves you. And you can make every experience with her (not neccessarily new) but incredibly special.Hope this will help you, Good luck.-Hugs
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (14 July 2007):
 You don't own this girl, she's a "girl friend". Be her friend, have some fun, get a handjob, finger her, kiss her like no one else ever has or ever will again. Don't talk to your buds about it, keep private things private. Please don't think I am being demeaning in any way, I was 15 once too, but I wish I had someone to tell me this back then ... enjoy life and take great pride in being male, be a confident male, but most of all, be in control of yourself because you can't control anyone else.
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