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writes:I am 16 and i am still a virgin. i love my boyfriend to bits and we have talked about having sex but never went through with it. Im scared i will do something wrong. And also there is nowhere we can actually do it, my house is never empty and its the same for him. Its getting really annoing, and also how much does it hurt. so my questions are*does it hurt*will i do something wrong*where can we do it appart from out houses
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (26 July 2006):
 Is there any other ways round it? what about saying your going to a friends?or a hotel? or meet him somewhere then go somewhere else? like i sed u need to think outside the box...or bedroom lol get back to me with how things are going plz x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes they know i go out with him. But they would strongly dissagree with the idea of me camping out.
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (16 July 2006):
I'm sorry i cant anser your 1st question because it is different for almost everybody. If he loves you as much as it seems he'll be so happy to have the chance he wont care let alone notice if you do happen to slip up somewhere. There are alot of places you can do it you just need to think outside the box. But firstly do your parents no that you are going out with each other? If they do would they strongly reject the idea of having a camp out in the garden-jus you and him...in a tent. You see where im coming from? I've had the exact same problem before and its arkward but we thought about it and came up with alot of suitable places that would also be fun. I hope ive helped a little bit. Please get back to me if you need anything explaining. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2006): You're half way there already by choosing to loose your virginity to someone that you love, this will make the experience much easier.
Being a girl, and it being your first time, you shouldn't have to do too much at all. Agree first that you'll do it missionary style (you lying down, and him on top) the rest should, more or less, come naturally to you.
Does it hurt - it could do. This is mainly due to being nervous though, you could be more tense and if you are nervous you may not be creating enough lubrication for him to penetrate you easily. You might also still have the "hymen" attached to your vagina - this is a bit of skin that needs to tear to allow penetration. A lot of girls though already have this torn without them realising it. The key to minimising pain (if you do have any) is to be relaxed and for him to take it very easy and slowly, don't be afraid to tell him if you do feel pain that you don't like.
Will you do something wrong - very doubtful. Just take things easily, be intimate by kissing him. If he is a virgin too, he might need a bit of help with penetrating you so don't been afraid to take control of his penis using your hands to guide him in. Again, if he is a virgin, it will quite likely be over in minutes, it is quite an overwhelming experience for a man to experience the first few times(!)
Where can you do it - you ideally need to find somewhere safe, secure and where you won't be disturbed. Perhaps you need to wait until you know your house is empty? Ideally you don't want to do it in public, or in a place that you could get disturbed, this could make you feel less relaxed. I don't know how old you both are but perhaps you could go out for the evening and stay in a hotel?
Try not to worry too much, but plan it well and don't be afraid to communicate with him. You will remember the experience for the rest of your life, so the more relaxed and romantic it is, the better as you can always look back on it on smile rather than gringe at the thought of doing it drunk with someone you didn't know.
PS don't forget to use contraception - a condom at the very least, you must insist on this no matter what he says ok? If he is inexperienced he will probably need to do a few test runs on his own using condoms because they can be really fiddly to get on the first few times. It might be an idea for you to use contraception too. The last thing you want is to deal with any accidental pregnancies.
Good luck!
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