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writes: Can't give her oral sex any more............ Hi, my wife just had a baby about 10 months ago, a wonderful little girl. I was in the operating room and seeing her going thru delivery left me with these images in my head. Before I used to like giving her oral sex and she also liked receiving it a lot. We resumed having sex 4-5 months after birth, but I just can't give her oral...I've got the bloody images stuck in my head and I'm disgusted to look at her labia and I feel that if I would try I will throw up. I know she's wondering why I'm not doing that, but she's too decent to tell me. On the other hand, she doesn't do it for me either, but that was since before the birth (she just doesn't enjoy doing it). I'm afraid she might think that I want her to do that 4 me (although it's not a bog issued 4 me), as I'm afraid to tell her the real reason, coz I don't want her to feel ugly or neglected.....What do U think I can do about it ?
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (16 December 2006):
 I totally understand how you feel (to some extent). I saw this video of a woman giving birth. It totall grossed me out!!! I dont even joke about having a baby anymore with my girlfriend! But I can tell you that by taking it slowly you'll eventually lose the images. Or atleast they wont have that much of an effect on you. Try starting off by using your fingers but also look 'down there' while you do it (force yourself if you have to!). Eventually you'll get over it
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2006): Hi, I think that this is something that will improve over time. From my personal expierience i used to absoultely not be able to stand the smell of cum and used to wretch (yes like throwing up!) every time i saw it! Boy that made my personal life difficult for a while! But over time, its got better. It is important to approach sex with your wife in a positive way - for example, when the situation presents itself dont think imediately 'oh god! i cant giver her oral!' try to put it completely out of your mind and perhaps try to think of the first time you gave oral to your wife and how enjoyable for both of you it was.
It is still very soon after the birth of your daughter and therefore your sex life (as well as your general life) is bound to change completely. It is also shocking what does happen to the female body when giving birth - but at the same time an everyday thing and a miracle in itself!
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