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writes:So today for Valentine's Day i gave a box of chocolate with a small teddy bear to my friend. I already knew she had a boyfriend, but I only gave it to her because she is such a good friend that i knew for a really long time. I do like her, but only as a friend. Was it wrong for me to do that today? I mean some people are accusing me of trying to break her relation or something, which is something i would never do (first of all, why would I do that to my friend?). Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 Tsk,tsk. Don't try pulling this on us, my friend :)
Every USA drugstore is flooded with " For my good friend " Hallmark cards, to be sent to your unromantic Valentines.
You surely know it , yet you chose chocolate and a teddy bear , the typical romantic gift. That's pushing the enevelope, - and I am not sure it was so innocent.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): Yeah it was wrong. Valentines day is a day of romance not friendship. Birthdays, xmas and easter are the holidays you give presents to friends. But you gave your friend romantic gifts on the most romantic day of the year.
"first of all, why would I do that to my friend?" Why would you give your friend romantic gifts then?
You were completely wrong to do so and people are right to question why you did it. If she was single then fine. But only a persons partner or someone who's interested can give romantic gifts on valentines day.
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reader, Hacienda  +, writes (15 February 2011):
 OK hun. The thing about Valentines day is it is an expression of love, most people take that to mean it should only be expressed by lovers, but it can also be used to show your appreciation to your friends. I often wish my close male friends a happy valentines day, although I do not buy them presents. As a woman in a relationship I know that if my boyfriend were to receive a gift I would probably be suspicious, and so would he if I received one. if what you did was purely out of a platonic feeling of friendship that you wanted to express then that is what you need to make clear to people. if they wont listen, they wont listen. but make sure SHE understands at least. there is nothing strictly wrong with what you did, but others may not see it like that. as long as you both know it was well intentioned then I wouldn't worry about what others think. perhaps it is safer all round to just wish her a happy valentines day though next year. ;)
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