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writes:I am trying to make sense of all of this and need some other opinions.I began a relationship with this girl that I goto school with. She just got out of a past long term relationship and said that it was over, that she didn't want to get back together with him no matter what happened. I was a bit skeptical and was worried about the rebound effect. She would reassure me that I wasn't. That she had already gone out with another guy and that was the "rebound". So she would just say and do everything right. She made me feel safe enough to let her in, she would say how much she wanted to get to know me, and how much she truly cared. She eventually even told me she loved me. I fell for her pretty hard, and believed everything. I truly did fall in love with her. She would tell me that I am all she wanted and that no one would stand in our way of being together (parents and friends seemed to not like us together).So then she runs into her ex one day recently and then she does a total 180. Tells me she never loved me, didn't want to be with me and that all we should be is just friends. She lies to me and tells me that she doesn't want to hurt her family and friends and that is why we can't see each other. I finally get the truth out of her after a couple weeks in that he wants her back now and she is buying all his BS he's feeding her (They've gone thru this in the past, break up- sorry for a while, then he's back to his old self). But she continues to tell me that there is something special about the way it feels to hold each other's hand, and that there was something "magical" about the way we kissed and all. But she's turning her back on this and wants to give it all away. She said how nothing would stop us from being together but has now given up on it.I don't understand it. Was it all just a lie? Was it all just a game? How can someone make you fall for them like this and then just turn and walk away and say that they "misspoke" about their feelings? How do you let go of someone that you love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow do you let go? Why do I still miss her? How do I stop thinking about her when I wake up in the morning and she's the first thing on my mind?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 January 2010):
Well she's successfully wasting her life. The truth is that you are better off without this woman, because it's clear that you were just rebound 2. The best possible thing you can do is to cut all contact permanently and get over her. Not easy, but if you give yourself time and care and never contact this woman again, you will get there. Focus on your own life.
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