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*agunaangel
writes:My boyfriend and i have decided to settle together finally....so i thout...until i have to listen to hm whining as the day approaches for him to meet my parents..one day his sure another day his not...That doesn't mean that i dont have doubts myself ...but at least am sure his the one i love.With him, anything that requires effort, he will talk about it like forever, plan...ye me am the kind who says that Get set, ready and Go... His draining my energy and enthusiasm.....because not only do i have to think about my own doubts and fears...i have to add his...yet am a woman...Was i right to just tell him to let it go if his not sure and that his not doing me any favor to get married? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2014): Your boyfriend may suffer from an anxiety disorder, or he just frets over doing things that require him to make major decisions.
It's not wrong for you to encourage him to meet your family, or face his fears. Just keep this in mind. If it takes too much effort to get him to do anything, I think the truth behind it all is that he just doesn't want to do it. Period. He will aggravate you until you throw up your hands and give-up in defeat. That's just how he gets his way a majority of the time.
It sounds like you have to push and pressure him too much to do everything. Then, he gets on your nerves with excuses and over-analyzing things to death. He over-thinks every little thing; because you and he are never on the same page about most things. If you're talking about marriage and he's doing all this, you had better reconsider and rewrite your plans. He's sounds far to immature in his thinking; and he passive-aggressively resists doing the things you want or ask him to do.
This guy's head and heart doesn't seem to be into anything that you want to do. He sounds totally incompatible.
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