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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of a year (a long distance relationship most of the time - he travels a lot for work and his home is in another town) came over for a weekend. He usually will contribute something towards food and drinks as I do when I visit but this time - not a dime. I had to drive miles to and from the airport, pay for food and almost 10 bottles of wine (which he drank on his own, I don't drink much)in three days. I am not well off and he knows it. I asked if he could pay for some of the wine - I can at least feed my guests myself - he told me he had had a difficult month financially. Ok I get that but surely he should slow down a bit with the booze that I have to pay for as it was way above my usual budget? I feel this was inconsiderate, he thinks I shouldn't complain because if I can't contribute when I visit it will be ok with him - except I don't drink 10 bottles of wine in 3 days!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): I think you should stick to your budget!
Don't buy these things and if he comes over and says 'I want' just say 'You get shop and get it, i didnt think u wanted it' that way it shows him u are not prepared to struggle financially for him!
Hopefully he will go to the shops and buy it himself (And maybe pick u some chocolate up while he's there...haha)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 10 bottles of wine is a lot to drink in 3 days for one person I must admit. Ok so I understand that you went over your budget but sweetie am sorry but you shouldnt have bought them if you couldnt afford it. Then he wouldnt have had the chance to drink 10 bottles of wine. You bought them therefore really you cant complain. Just know that in future if he comes to visit. Buy what you usually do in your budget and if he asks for anything more then you will need to say to him that you cannot afford it and he will need to buy it himself simple as that.
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reader, IAMDONE  +, writes (24 February 2011):
Another classic example of the things that we as women allow men to do to us. We know these type of individuals who consume more than we can afford are inconsiderate to say the least. But why do we as women allow them to take advantage of us. Next time, if there is a next time, I would politely stop buying the wine and let him know that I can not afford it if he ask for the wine or inquires as to why I am not buying it. I would also tell him that I am have financial problems as well. I believe that men should foot the bill when it comes to who pays for what. Do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with a woman paying for dinner and drinks...but to abuse the situation is not right. We have to step up and not allow situations like this to happen!
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