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writes:well this has been troubling me for a while and I was hoping someone could give me a little insight as to what I should do. I'm 20 years old and I have the hardest time getting noticed by guys it's as if I'm invisible to the opposite sex. They rarely if ever look at me let alone approach me. I've had two guys ask for my number but that's it. It's just hard for me to stay positive because I'm getting older and have yet to have a boyfriend. I just want a meaningful relationship with a guy. I'm working on my confidence and making myself a better a person so I have more to offer. Sorry it's so long can someone please shed some light on my problem, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): it's better to be alone than with bad company. I've had plenty of girlfriends but none of them have lived up to be worthy of my respect, that's for sure. it's not it's cracked up to be
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reader, Kitzy  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 I can relate to this situation, I too were 20 and still not had a proper boyfriend :( But in my case i was very shy and acted like little girl lost, at the time i thought guys would come to me and feel sorry for me, but no lol, quite the opposite, I must have looked too needy and that was a BIG turn off! I had to rethink how to come accross, but then turned the opposite way and dreesed up to be confident (but that was wrong too) looking back i looked like a cheap tart, and that too is a Big turn off as you come accross as easy! So i just kinda gave up and got on with having a laugh with my girlfriends, and this is what worked! guys would see me with my friends, having a laugh and just being myself :) So when yopur not worrying about guys and how to look, if you are just yourself, you will come accross much better :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to thank everyone for their advice especially Karlin24 great stuff.I'm going to try my best on exuding more confidence I think that's my biggest problem. I'll let you know how it goes
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate all of your input really but the one thing that is still bothering me is the whole giving off the wrong vibes thing. How or what can I do to change that or is it something I'm just stuck with if I get past that then I'm sure my situation will change
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reader, Karlin24 +, writes (26 May 2009):
 Sweetie, it's 60% about the confidence you portray. I have a friend who is cute, but overweight, but still knows she is "sexy as hell" and because she believes it, so does everyone else. Now I'm not saying you don't want to take care of yourself and look good, as men are visual creatures and want the whole package. What I am saying is do the best you can with what you have and when you go out, know and act like you are Angelina Jolie. Trust me, whatever flaws you have will be invisiable if you walk into any room with the attitude like are sexy as hell. If your not comfortable with yourself, fake it girl. We all have our insecurities. Walk in with your shoulders back, your head high, and a swing in your booty. You may want to work on your flirting techniques. If you see something you like, look him up and down, give him a half-smile and a wink and keep walking. If he's interested, he will find you. Just remember. Attraction, flirting and presenting yourself is all about the game. You ever see someone try to sell something that doesn't truly believe in it? You don't either. But you find a salesman that truly believes his product is the best in the world and you will buy that, even if you don't need it. You gotta' believe in yourself and "sell" that to everyone watching. Men are easy Girl. That's why we like them. Here's a tip. The good-look9ing conceited ones, ignore them, don't let them catch you looking. It pisses them off and they will try to get your attention. The overly ambitious ones, be nice but let them know that you're not easy. The quiet ones, now those are the keepers. You may actually have to approach them, telling them they are "the most interesting man in the place" and they probably are. Trust me, if you have confidence, you emit something that automatically makes you desirable. I'm 38 and less than perfect, but not a week goes by that I don't get several offers, many from men in their 20's. Let me know how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI thank you for your advice I just want to let you know I don't walk around smiling all the time I'm pretty much serious but if I make eye contact with someone I'll give them a smile. The whole I don't look approachable thing still baffles me what exactly do I have to do to change this I really want to fix this so that I can in fact attract more guys.
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