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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Can I please ask opinions….I’m a 39 year old virgin- despite being once married.I was bought up in a religious household where we weren’t allowed sex before marriage.I met a guy I fell in love with and he was happy to wait until after our wedding. Unfortunately I was so scared of it hurting and fear of getting pregnant (yes we used birth control) that psychologically and physically I couldn’t lose my virginity- I was so tense. We attempted so many times but to no avail. I got divorced this year. I don’t think I can even date anyone again as I’m scared of telling men I’m practically a 40 year old virgin. Do you think the majority of men will be put off and shall I just accept I’ll be alone forever? I know I need to get some help, I’mJust so embarrassed by the whole thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2022): I am a virgin. My GF is a virgin. We are totally hot for each other, but waiting. You are older, but still the same. People can still find your sexy and attractive. Think of it as something special and sexy you have to offer the right guy if he proves himself worthy or whatever. Think of it as a positive, not a negative.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2022): You need therapy. Whatever you say to a guy won't change the fact that you have a pathological fear of sex (penetration). Maybe after therapy you won't even have to explain yourself to anyone. Once you get your fear out of the way, you talking to a guy won't be an issue. To be honest, some men like the idea that they are the first sexual partner of their gf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2022): You might try getting a professional opinion.
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