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writes:I've been reading up on how to give good blowjobs, and I know that using your tongue well goes a long way, but I'm a little unsure about some things. I'm fine giving attention to his sensitive spots if that's the only thing I'm doing, but if I've got him in my mouth, tonguework suddenly gets complicated; my tongue seems to naturally 'pull back' like it's folding up, and my gag reflex gets really sensitive, so when I try and use my tongue, I end up feeling way closer to gagging than if I were just using my lips.What's the 'default' position my tongue should be in when I first take him into my mouth? Should I let it pull back, make it lie flat, or maybe try to stick it out a little? Is there any way I can breathe to make my tonguework better?Any other tips you could give me on using my tongue during blowjobs would be awesome, too.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 May 2012):
 It would be very difficult to improve upon the advice from "YouWish" - she's got it down. But as a man, I really don't feel too much from any special tongue movement while getting a blow job when inside. The tongue certainly applies stimulation around the rim of the head and shaft, as she notes, and I'm very turned on by kisses to the tip prior to insertion. But once the woman takes it inside, the primary enjoyment comes from the warmth and suction.
Although some women can take it deep without a gag reflex, that's not really required, but as I near climax, just a few deep strokes do help trigger the release. Personally, I much enjoy shooting as deep as possible if the woman can handle it. The main thing is don't stop - keep sucking throughout the climax!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 May 2012):
 Geeze, every time I talk about the details of oral sex, I feel like I'm gonna get into trouble with the mods, because there is a fine line between relaying technique and getting too pornographic. My apologies in advance if I cross any lines here, so I'll stay respectful.
That being said, you have to understand that a blowjob is so much more than going in and out. Your hands should be in play, running them gently on the base of the shaft, his scrotum, his inner thighs, his chest, and even other places if he's into that and if he's lying back. Your mouth isn't merely a hole to insert him in. Your tongue can run along the rim of his head, the whole front side of the shaft, playing with the glans, the whole nine yards.
Good oral sex is like a dance with your lips, tongue, hands, fingers, even your breathing. You can tell by the tautness in his skin, and even how flushed his face is how close to orgasm he is, whether you're teasing him or easing him. You can make it last long or make him pop fast. Hopefully you have a good guy who doesn't try to grab your head and grind on you (I hate that!), and if you're worrying about what to do with your tongue, use the "texture" rule. This means that you use your tongue to enjoy the texture of every inch of him, slowly at first.
I hope that helps! Take your time! Exploration is FUN! You're gagging because you think that you have to deep throat him all the time. Nope. :)
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