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writes:I don't honestly know how to say this but the other week my boyfriend and I were having anal sex. It's a regular thing. But when he 'pulled out' I emptied my bowels involuntarily. At first I thought something was wrong and my boyfriend was a bit horrified. I know now that nothing is wrong and I now regularily use a vibrator anally with the sole purpose of emptying my bowels. It's become a fetish and I want to get my boyfriend involved but fear he would be horrified all over again. Should I approach the subject with him or just keep it to myself?
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reader, MissKin + ♥, writes (23 March 2009):
 really the only reason you feel the need to do this is because of the incident that happened. if you emptied your bowels naturally before hand you wouldn't need to do this would you? And if you're involuntarily emptying your bowels after anal sex, doesn't this give you a hint that it's not something you should naturally do? For some people anal sex works fine, but for others - they just shouldn't do it! And it really is dangerous, you're messing with your natural bowel movements when there is no need to and it's more of a dangerous self-harming habit than a fetish.
I don't think you should tell your boyfriend, but i do think you should stop. But if you can't stop then feel free to tell him. to see what he says, but act very subtly about it.
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reader, satindesire  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 The bowel can be a very sensitive area, that needs to be able to function naturally. Using a vibrator to stimulate your bowels to move is potentially quite dangerous and you need to stop.
If you have a scat fetish, you can bring it up to your boyfriend, but I don't think this is a fetish. "Fetish" is an overused and misused word in our lexicon and I want to clear the air about that word.
To put it simply, a "Fetish" is something a person must do or must have in order to become sexually aroused or in order to reach orgasm. If you can become sexually aroused and reach orgasm without stimulating your bowel movement with a vibrator, then you do not have a fetish, it is merely a kink.
You have a right to tell your boyfriend about your sexuality, but he is equally within his rights to say that he does not want to explore that kink. Do not pressure him either way...kinks can make or break a relationship, so approach this topic with sensitivity.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (23 March 2009):
 Too much information here! seriously are you not concerned your doing serious damage to your bowels here!
This is not a healthy way to empty your bowel, i really feel you ought to stop doing this before permanent damage is done to your bowels.
If i were your boyfriend i would be more than horrified.
Please be careful here this sounds way too dodgy to me.
Gina
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 March 2009):
 Yuck, keep it to yourself.
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