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30-35,
*gonyunclechris
writes:A girl turned me down because people call me gay at school but i am deffinately not and i really like her, what can i do ?? i dont care wat people think but its effecting me now as i can not get the girl i want because of it. it makes me really sad and is starting to knock my confidence now. no matter how much i say i am NOT GAy they wont listen as its not the answer they want , i get taken the mick of to do with gay things more than i have my name said
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (24 February 2008):
This is bullying at its lowest form. Usually guys that tease a guy about being gay usually have hidden issues themselves that they are not addressing. You know like smoke and mirrors. Pot calling the kettle black. However this is very serious stuff and they have no right to judge you or to even make baseless acusations about you. This girl obviously tends to be victim to runner duck syndrome. Ie she follows everyone's lead and assumptions rather than formulating her own opinion. I would seek assistance from the school you are going to about this issue as it sounds as though these boys have been given free reign to attack you verbally and mentally. I would put a formal complaint in writing, keep a diary of events and face these bullys with the assistance of the school. Maybe if this girl spent enough time with you she would see that you are not gay. The fact that it is upsetting you so much would indicate to me that you are not. Seek assistance and say no to their behaviour and take a stand. You have a right to be loved, be treated with respect and to live your life free of judgement. The only way to get past this storm is to go THROUGH IT. Let me know how it goes. If their behaviour once brought to the school's attention worsens then they will be dealt with and you could involve the police for their harrassment of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): My suggestion would be to have a one-on-one talk with the girl and tell her how you feel about her. If she is not understanding enough to listen to you and your side of the story then, she is not the one for you buddy and she might not even be worth the effort.
You are young, and you have your entire life before you. Dont let these setbacks pull you down.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 Sorry , it is not easy to clear your name when that label sticks on to you. Time may help you or if you move to a totally different location.
You would need a lot of convincing that you are not a gay. Whatever associate you with this label, do remove yourself from those factors.
It takes time and you need to be patient.
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