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writes: So, my current girlfiend and I have been together for 9 months, and been living together for about 7 months. It's been very good except for one HUGE problem. TRUST. I have almost no trust in her, mainly because of things that have happened.My main problem is my girlfriend has all guy friends, she does have 2 girl friends but they are from college and she doesnt talk to them in person much. 3 of her friends are ex-boyfriends... She thinks I should be ok with that! Here are my issues with her:1. Her best friend is an ex-boyfriend who she had a 3yr relationship with 3 years ago. I have always had a problem with her talking to him, since he talked shit on me and was very protective of her. 2. When we first started dating I felt like she was dating a few other guys at the same time, which she told me was pretty much true. At the time, these were "guy friends". she has since stopped talking to these guys but that is always in the back of my head.3. She was still talking to her ex-bf on the phone for the first 4 months we were together. I even found some IM conversations where she said "i love you, i miss you" which i confronted her about, and she just said "i was being stupid" and she said she really regrets ever doing this..4. She works with a lot of guys, and one in particular bothers the heck out of me. They seem aweful buddy buddy and I know he wants her. Come to find out, she sent him pictures of herself(scandalous pics) and was talking shit on me! I found this a few months after the conversation took place. When I found this out, I told her the relationship was over... (this was about 3-4 months ago) This is f**ked up because this is a co-worker, someone she sees almost everyday. Not to mention, she still has to talk to him because she works with him.She told me that she felt we were not going to last, and thats why she did #2,3 and 4 (like i said this was about 4 months ago). At the same time though, telling me how much she loved me. I have confronted her about her guy friends on numerous occassions.we talked it over and have reconciled, but i have no trust anymore... I really do love her, but should i just end it?
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reader, struggling in pa +, writes (19 October 2006):
what if I said she still talks to this guy that she sent half-naked pics too, like nothing happened. Even though i confronted her numerous times about it?
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Maybe, she's just not ready for a serious relationship. I would go my own way for awhile. You can't go on not trusting her. This will eat you alive but you have to leave the past in the past. If you have reconciled than you should say whatever happenend then was then. Move forward. If you can't do that then you should end it as you will only continue to suffer like this and make her miserable as well.
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