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writes:im 20, and i have been having trouble keeping an erection while having sex. i dont really have trouble getting one, but after maybe 2-5mins i tend to lose it. a little background info; i was hurt at work about a year and a half ago suffering a inguinal hernia. it was a terrible experience. i had the surgery but it was botched causing a 2.5 inch cut of my intestine and suffered a huge infection. im 5'6, at the time 165lbs, very athletic, im a purple belt, played hockey 4times a week and workout 5days a week. after the surgery i lost 60lbs and havent really been the same since. in the year and a half i havent really had a consistant girl around. i had 2 girls that i started to see, but with both of them i had recieved oral and found it hard to cum. when it came to trying to have sex i had trouble getting an erection. both ended up leaving me short times after.anyways, i just recently started dating another girl and im getting better but still after about 5mins i lose my erection. she is very tight and im about 8-8.5 inches and fairly thick, but it still i lose it.after reading some other articles some of my thoughts are as follows.- low testosterone levels, cause my surgery maybe it has affected my ability to create more testosterone even if im back at the gym lifting heavy weights- stress, i work parttime sales for an mma gear company and also work fulltime as a pilot in an entry level job. my flight op is pretty stressful cause the guys put alot of work on me and i get angry really fast and just bottle it up.-poor circulation in my penis-perhaps too much masterbating,usually not everyday but safe to say 4-8 times a week.- worrying too much, i think that sometimes im hurting her, or trying not to cum to fast or just somehow developed a.d.d. and get distracted- workout supplements, i take nitrous oxide, creatine, arginine, multivitamins and alot of protein. im trying to get back to where i was physically before my surgery but i dont think the supplements have any aadverse effects. they should more help the cause.im too embarrassed to go to the doctor. im wondering if anyone can offer any wisdom or advice it would be greatly be appreciated. thx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Hey bud!
Im sorry to hear about your accident. It sounds like you could have a combination of things. Good job on getting back to the weights...that is a sure fire way to boost ur sex life def and the supplements are good too tho I found creatine to only give me that "one extra" rep.
Anyway, I think ur problem is def more psychological than physical bro. Masturbation is healthy however if youre used to porn or other images, your body can subconsciously say "I will only be stimulated if I see this" and this isnt good. It could mean a buildup or desensitisation to certain sexual feelings. Therefore, if thats the case the habit needs to be broken somehow so you can get used to being stimulated by the "real thing".
It could also be that youve become too used to how ur hand feels and not a woman.
Another possibility is that youre worried about performance it sounds. Try focusing on sensations and go slow...I love to lay a woman down on a bed on her stomach and kiss her everywhere then roll her over and kiss her as well starting with her face and movin' down...lol depending on how slow I move this takes a good ten minutes and turns me on big time. the slowness of the kisses and feelin of her i e foreplay allows the body to pick up a lot of sensations but enough time in between each feeling so that the body has a chance to get aroused. Once that happens then move into oral and ive found men with performance worries like 69 because of the well obvious lol. Focus on feeling and sensation rather than making your goal to orgasm as this can cause you stress and pressure. The goal of sex isnt orgasm, it is pleasure for both people. try setting ur goals a little lower and that could help too :D
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