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female
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36-40,
*itch-fire
writes:me and a guy I've been seeing decided to try and have sex last night. he got as far as putting the tip inside but I couldn't handle the pain of any more going in. we're going to try again another night, and I don't want to disapoint him. is there anything i could do to help him slide in easier. I know there will be some pain, but i don't want a repeat of last night.I was fine with foreplay and other sexual things, and he didn't force me any further. he was happy just kissing me especially when I stayed all night. any help you could give me would be great.... guys or girls xxx
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reader, marcia99116  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 actually forcing it isn't as bad as it sounds.
It usually only hurts because you are not lubed and after a few minutes your body usually responds with natural lube
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reader, witch-fire +, writes (19 December 2010):
witch-fire is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks girls, he did finger me a lot, and by the end, I was comfortable with 2 fingers up there, but he didn't want to rush me into anything after the first try. I'm seeing him tomorrow.
It was a shame really- I did want him so badly.
Can't believe he forced you into it!
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (19 December 2010):
Foreplay is the main thing, try to get him to get you nice and wet. Relax too. Nerves may have played a part. You could also use a bit of lube if needed.
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reader, marcia99116 +, writes (19 December 2010):
See a doctor! This is a condition I cannot remember the name for but it causes pain during sex - I had it for over a year after I had my first child, my boyfriends ex had it as well. The doctor will make some obvious suggestions before examining more thoroughly:
1. Use lube - even more so if you are using condoms - the materials of condoms can cause irritation/dryness for some women. Hopefully you are using a condom...
2. Do you masturbate? Some women would probably blush to think about it but if you do not use a dildo or your fingers on yourself it will be more difficult to determine the source of the pain.
In short it could be a few different things - none of them very alarming some can be adjusted with exercises and massaging the area to get it ready.
If you try the above thing and it hurts still you should seek a doctor and get double checked and more advice on what alternatives you could try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): Heyy .. This happened to me too but he just forced it .. But umm it didn't hurt that much cuz he fingered me befor we had sex soo tell him to finger you befor like a lot thoe for like 20 or 15 min. It will help a lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): thats the exact same it was with me. we tryed all the time and it always hurt to bad and i couldnt do it.. then i started to really fal inlove with him, and one night it worked. if your not completely comfertable around him, or feel shy or anything it probably wont work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): Obviously, I wouldnt have a clue. But try lots and lots of foreplay. Maybe eventually in the middle of it, it'll just happen and you wont really notice so it wont hurt so much :)
xoxo
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