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writes:Hello, and thank you. I dated a guy 3 yrs back we dated for 1 year. We had a lot of fun together. He's funny, charming, and communicates well, not to mention we had great chemistry. I began having some deep feelings towards him, and was leaning towards a relationship with him. Everytime I'd bring that up he would say he's "content" with his life. I needed more from him so I walked away. He was on my mind a lot I somehow never got over him. He still contacted me and said he wanted to get together, he said @ times he missed me. I told him a couple of times I needed "us" to be more than what we were. He did reply, " he kept asking to see me to see where it goes, and he said, he found himself caring for me". He never used the "L" word which neither did I but we had a great connection and when we were together his actions spoke louder then his words. Anyways after all this time we went out recently. I was ill but still went and we had a good time. At the end of our date he hugged me tight and didn't let go. He kept talking like he didn't want to leave. He said, " I will see you again". I waited 3 days for him to contact me, then I finally texted him. He replied back said he was busy(which he usually is) but I'm thinking to myself busy or not it doesn't take much to text or a quick email and say hey had a nice time etc. He used to do this a lot when we dated so its left me thinking things may not have changed. What do u think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2012): I must agree with you, there's no effort taking just a moment out of his day to respond and I'm giving you my own personal male opinion. Is there a chance he may be hiding something or someone from you? He may like you but if there's another woman he may be behaving cautious which is something you should ask him about. You don't want to be hurt if this is the case. If noone else is in his life then you could try cooking dinner for him (optional) if you know where he lives show up with groceries and offer to make him a meal. It's the best way to our hearts. At least you will have time while you eat dinner to talk things out. Do you know what his favorite food is?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 May 2012):
 It sounds to me like you might be right. I have knowing many guys like this. I don't think any thing has changed with this man and I don't think it will any time soon. My guess is that he does like you, and yes he might be busy but you are right it does not take much to drop a little text or make a quick phone call to you. It looks like he wants you in his life but he is not going to commit to you any time soon. He might think he has no time for a relationship, or it might be he just does not want any commitments, I think you are better staying away from him and giving yourself a chance to meet someone else before you get hurt again.
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