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writes:The problem is I am in a happy relationship but I am in love with a colleague as well. My partner and I have a lot of history we dated 5 years ago but I left him as I wasn't ready to settle down. In April we reunited and I fell head over heels in love with him, he then in turn after a couple of months got itchy feet and ended things. After a month of seperation we went away to talk and cleared the issues away and subsequently got back together. He has now moved in with me and we have a fantastic relationship and a promising future ahead.My colleague, I have been attracted to him for over two years and have desperatley tried to repel and repress feelings for him but to no avail. These feelings are reciprocated and he is aware that I have a partner. When I was single he had a partner so it seems to be bad timing. Shamefully I have to admit that we have shared a few kisses, yes, whilst I am in a relationship. This is something that I am most certainly not proud of but don't seem to be able to control it. We are so close as friends and have a lot in common and share a similar outlook for future aspirations.I have both sides of the coin, a partner who is very good to me, the suggested future with him would be exciting but he does not want kids or to get married. I already have a child from a previous relationship who he is very good with. I don't know for sure if I want anymore children but do know I would like to get married. On the other hand my colleague is all for getting married and having kids (don't know if he sees that with me or not). Kindly awaiting your help.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (13 December 2010):
 It sounds like you may have some deeper issues you have to deal with first. Your current partner you have broken up with twice and yet you still are back with him. How many times can you end it with him? You have already stated he doesn't want exactly what you want out of life yet you are still with him. Now you are interested in this other man.
My suggestion is to stop doing this to your partner. You either make up your mind to be with him and ONLY him or if the idea of that scares you or bothers you then that is your answer right there. Don't keep playing games with your partner. Either choose him and live with that decision or move on.
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