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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Why do I fall for guys who call me boring? At first I dont like these guys and everything is cool just good friends while they are attracted to me.... but I'm still in the friends zone with them, then after getting to know each other better I start to develop feelings. Dont do anything with them that i am not comfortable with because I am still a virgin (but we do mess around like kiss) then after a few months I would be called boring by them... but by this time even though I'm still not doing anything, my feelings have grown even MORE! I don't know if this makes sense but if someone could share some light it would be great thanks!
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reader, plasmoid  +, writes (6 October 2010):
If you aren't comfortable having sex with these boys you like then... don't.
It's an emotional pressuring tactic. It works, or they think it works, which is why they use it. Try explaining how you feel about sex and what you want. It might make things better.
On the other hand, maybe you need to find someone a little more... you. You should maybe wait until you find someone who you *want* to have sex with. If you can find someone who is your speed then you will be set. It doesn't matter how shy/timid you are it will all work out. I found someone who I meshed with, she went from being afraid of being on top to being willing to do *anything* in about 18 months. So it's not instant but it does happen faster than you would think.
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